Summarizing the False Self

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What is the false self?

For the past few weeks we have taken a very detailed look at the concepts of true self and false self.  Today we are going to summarize the major characteristic of the false self and how it functions.  Our hope is that the more we recognize false self the more we will recognize the pain that comes from living in the false self identity.

 

We have learned that false self begins to be created as soon as we are born.  It knows it is supposed to be trained by true self.  True self is our nonphysical self that is the repository for everything we have ever learned.  At the beginning of each lifetime it is supposed to take charge and train false self to be the eyes and ears for true self during the lifetime.  True self is supposed to make all the decisions, not false self.

 

On this planet we do not do this with our infants.  The parents do not understand what true self is, so they allow the false self to take charge.  False self knows that it is not supposed to be in charge and begins to form its identity based on this fear of being alone and being in charge.

 

False Self Forms Attachments

False self in an infant is supposed to look to true self for guidance and its identity.  Because we do not train our infants to listen to true self our infants begin to take their false self identity from the physical objects around them.

 

The initial attachments that an infant forms are to their body and to those people around it.  Gradually the infant begins to form attachments to their thoughts and ideas.

 

By the time the child is about seven years old these initial attachments are set strongly enough that they will govern the child’s behavior for the rest of their life – or until they learn to retrain the false self.  There are times when true self steps in and says that we can rid ourselves of an attachment or a fear, and we do so.  However these times are relatively few and far between.

 

A Tangled Web of Fears and Attachments

As we have just seen, false self begins to form its identity from the fear that it knows that it is not supposed to be in charge of the lifetime.  It has not understood that true self is supposed to make the decisions.  It has also not been trained to listen to true self for guidance.  It becomes very fearful when it comes to the conclusion that it will have to operate alone for the lifetime.

 

In order to quell that base fear false self begins to create an identity based on attachments to the things around it.  As the child gets older these attachments become the source of the false self identity.

 

The false self identity is now made of such attachments as its clothing, its automobile, its body, its nationality, its religion, and many more.  Because the false self has yet to understand that true self is always available it believes that it is actually all these attachments.

 

The additional fears come from the perceived questioning or injuring of any of the attachments.  False self identifies with its automobile.  If someone scratches that automobile, then false self perceives that it has been scratched.  False self identifies with its religious beliefs.  If someone appears to question those religious beliefs, false self views this as its identity being questioned.

 

Frequently when the false self identity is injured or questioned false self thinks it has to defend or attack in order to protect that identity.  If someone questions its political views, false self thinks it has to lash out at that someone to defend its identity.  If false self thinks someone is going to take its possessions, it attacks in order to protect those possessions and therefore its identity.

 

The Difficulty of Retraining False Self

Ok – so we are starting to see where our unhappiness comes from.  Our false self is attached to all kinds of objects, people, and thoughts that it thinks create its identity.  We spend most of our lives acting out the fears that false self experiences because it is protecting its false self identity.  We know we are unhappy.  Why can’t we learn to become happy?

 

The reason why it takes awhile to learn to be happy is that false self is resisting us at every turn.  As we start to listen to and understand our true self we also start to question the false self identity.  We start to see the fears and attachments for what they are – our source of unhappiness.

 

Initially false self does not know whether or not it can trust true self.  False self has been running things for many years and has become quite afraid of anyone or anything questioning its fears and attachments.  It has spent the entire lifetime defending those fears and attachments.  It does not like true self questioning its identity.

 

We retrain false self by continuously facing its fears and attachments.  We learn to listen to true self and the quiet little voice that will not submit to those fears and attachments.  That quiet little voice eventually convinces false self that true self understands what is going on and can be trusted.

 

Although we can have great insights and make large advancements in a single step, the typical path is one of small but frequent steps.  We see a small fear and conquer it.  We see a small attachment and let it go.  We make the small steps as we see them, but do not wait for the big steps.  Those will happen, but they will happen in their own time when we least expect them.  The gradual daily progress is what will bring us closer to our true happiness.

 

That is all for today.  I hope everyone has a great weekend!

 

Until Monday –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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True Self is Always in the Moment

Today we will bring together the last two weeks of posts.  The reason why we want to be living from our true self is because true self is always in the moment.  But first…

 

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Last night’s email distribution was successful.  However, it appears that the paragraph formatting was lost.  Each paragraph appears as one long line.  I will continue to work on that.

 

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Thankful Friday

On Fridays we spend a moment thanking people.  This week I want to thank our readers who have kept with the blog through the email distribution issues.  Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.

 

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The Past Two Weeks

So, you are asking yourself why we have spent the last two weeks talking about true self and false self.  The simple answer is that when we can identify and externalize the false self behavior we are left with true self.

 

True self is the source of everything we want in life.  Our happiness can only come from true self.  Anytime that false self starts to feel happy it always becomes afraid of losing that happiness.  True self knows that happiness will never go anywhere.

 

Our self confidence also comes from true self.  False self sometimes thinks it is confident.  However, this is frequently an aggressive, “in your face type” of confidence.  False self tries to “prove” it is confident.  That is not true confidence.  True self knows that it is confident and does not need to prove it.

 

For the past two weeks I have been attempting to help us see the differences between false self and true self.  I have been attempting to encourage us to learn how true self behaves and for us to learn to start behaving in that manner.  I have been showing how false self behavior is always self destructive and encouraging us to stop behaving in that manner.

 

True Self is Always in the Moment

The idea of being in the moment is discussed in many spiritual and religious practices.  It is the reason that people are encouraged to meditate.  It is the basis of prayer.  It is the single most important behavior we can learn in this or any other lifetime.

 

Let’s put together what we have been saying for the past two weeks about understanding true self and how that relates to being in the moment.  Let’s start with observation.

 

All discussions about being in the moment touch on the idea of observing.  When we are in the moment we are watching what is going on in our lives.  It is kind of like we have a vantage point that is a few inches above and behind our head.  We watch what is going on but our thinking process is slightly disengaged.  We are participating in, but not confined to what is going on around us.

 

True self is that observer.  If you reread the postings of the last few weeks you will see that whenever we talk about how to recognize and overcome false self behavior we are talking about observing that behavior.  Then we reinforce by showing that this observation is coming from true self.

 

The reason for these explanations was to attempt to show us how we are frequently in the moment for very short periods of time.  When we are in the moment we see clearly.  We are calm.  We have no fears.  Then the chatter which comes from false self jumps in and we are out of the moment.

 

Learning to Stay in the Moment

We start to see that there are fleeting seconds when we are actually in the moment.  We start to recognize that we can be in the moment.  Now the task becomes to stay in the moment for longer and longer periods of time.  That is just a matter of practice.

 

Once again, I hope that you will reread the last two weeks of discussion about true self and false self.  There are many specific examples of behaviors that we all exhibit at one time or another.  Each behavior is pulled apart and analyzed from a true self and false self perspective.

 

We describe a false self behavior and suggest where it came from.  We show how to observe that behavior.  We reinforce the idea that by observing the behavior we are observing from true self.  We are learning to stay in the moment by practicing being true self.

 

As we have said several times, this observation period usually starts with a fleeting second or two that comes from our desire to find true peace and happiness.  Frequently we say to ourselves “There has to be a better way!”  By recognizing those fleeting seconds we gradually learn to be the observer for short periods of time.  Now it is a matter of learning how to become the observer for longer periods of time.

 

No one is saying any of this is easy.  Nor is anyone saying this is hard.  Each of us finds our own way to learn to be in the moment.  From my observations it usually happens when we become absolutely and completely tired of being unhappy.

 

Then there is a trigger of some sort that is an insight to our true happiness.  At that point we decide we are going to find our true happiness no matter what the cost.  Now nothing can stop us.  We can become distracted or delayed.  We can get caught back in the false self illusions.  But somewhere inside we remember our commitment to our true happiness and we become the observer again.

 

We continue on our path knowing that we are becoming happier by the day.  We know that no matter what happens we will always return to our path.  Now we have found our true self, our true happiness and we are in the moment.

 

That’s all for today.  Have a great weekend!

 

Until Monday –

 

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We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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False Self Wants Life to be Fair

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I write the blog a day or two before it is posted.  Therefore the updates on the distribution may be slightly out of date.  On Wednesday morning I received the email containing that day’s post.  However it was in a “teaser” form.  I had unknowingly changed the distribution to be in this format.  I have since changed that back and hopefully today’s email distribution will be of the entire post.

 

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Life Isn’t Fair

I know – we all heard that as kids.  Did we agree with this idea then?  Do we agree with it now?

 

We have probably never agreed with the idea that life isn’t fair.  Why?  Where do we get the idea that life should be fair?

 

Hhmmm…  We have been talking about false self for almost two weeks.  Could it be that false self wants life to be fair?

 

We have talked about false self being the source of our unhappiness.  Doesn’t some form of unhappiness usually precede our insistence that life should be fair?  It would be a good guess that false self wants life to be fair.  But why?

 

When Life is Fair it is Easy

Remember that false self is composed mainly of fears and attachments.  It does not really like to think hard about things.  It wants things to be simple and readily apparent.  In our post about life being a journey we looked at the idea that false self wants life to be a formula.  A formula is easy to understand and follow.

 

In much the same way false self wants life to be fair.  It thinks that there is a formula that will bring fairness.  For example, “if I am fair to people then they should be fair to me.”  Another example would be “if I do a good job at work then I will keep my job and get raises.”

 

When false self follows some formula that it thinks will bring about fairness it is always disappointed.   It does a good job but loses its job anyway.  It is “fair” to other people but perceives that other people are not fair to it.  Then it takes these upsets personally and the downward spiral of happiness continues.

 

So if life is not fair, what is it?

 

Life Is What It Is

At first glance this seems to be either a flippant or simplistic answer.  Maybe it is both.  However, let’s take a look at it and attempt to understand it.

 

We will start with our post about why we exist.  I will summarize that post but it would be helpful if you read the entire post.

 

The reason that we exist is to learn and grow and then to share that learning and growth with those around us.

 

Believe it or not, that is all there is to life.  We touch upon that idea in greater detail in other posts on this blog so we will not spend much time on it right now.  When we start at the beginning many things become much easier to understand.

 

OK – so what does that have to do with “life is what it is?”

 

I was just getting to that.  If our main purpose in life is to learn, then if we live strictly by a formula then we drastically limit our opportunities to learn.  What do we learn if we perform tasks A, B, and C and always get result D?

 

If life is fair then all we have to do is be fair to other people and they will be fair to us.  This takes all the learning out because we think we know what it means to be fair.  “You don’t have to tell me what fair is, I already know that.”  Does that sound familiar?  That does not sound like a very open minded person, does it?

 

How can we learn when we are not open minded? We can’t.  When we are living life in a close minded way we are attempting to prove the truth of what we think we already know.  Once again, where is the new learning in that?

When we start to throw fears, attachments, self validation, and all those other marvelous characteristics of the false self into the mix, we see how we are closing off our learning opportunities.  We are trying to make life what we want it to be, and that never brings happiness.

 

It is far more satisfying to allow life to be what it is, approach it with the open mindedness of true self, and learn from the experience.  Our true self knows that life is whatever it is.  We know that true self wants to learn from whatever happens in life and therefore does not attempt to make it “fair” or otherwise fit into a formula.

 

When we recognize false self wanting life to be fair we must remember that once again we are true self observing the behavior of false self.  Tell false self that life isn’t fair – it is what it is.  Tell false self that true self knows what to do with this nebulous understanding of life.  Eventually false self will quiet down and start to trust true self.  Now we are on the path to finding our true happiness.

 

That’s all for today!  Please stop banging your head against the wall by trying to make life into something it cannot be.  As always, I want you to become at peace with yourself much sooner than I did.

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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More False Self Attachments to People

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Fears and Attachments Are Interconnected

As we have heard about the true self and false for the last week or so, I hope you have seen that the false self fears and attachments are closely interconnected.  Almost every time that we looked at one we have heard about the other.  I want you to really start to feel just how interconnected these two things are.  The better you understand the interconnection the sooner you will become adept at untangling them.

 

When we first start observing our behavior we usually only see the fears.  We are afraid of our boss, our spouse, the police, and so on.  We start to deal with the fears but it may take awhile to understand the underlying attachment that caused the fearful behavior.  The paradox is that the attachment is also based on a fear.  I have had a fun time pulling apart my fears and attachments.  Possibly some of that experience might help you.

 

An Example

Let’s take an example of a fear that many of us have.  We will pull it apart and look at the underlying attachment and related fears.

 

The example that we will use is a fear of our spouse.  The specific fear that we will look at is our fear that they may hurt us if they no longer like us.  Let’s step through this from the beginning:

 

1. Starting with the base fear of false self, we find that false self knows that it is not supposed to be alone.  It knows that it should have guidance and direction but has been trained out of looking to our true self for that direction.  When it finds someone, in this example our spouse, who accepts it that fear is somewhat assuaged.
2. Now that the fear is somewhat assuaged, false self wants to keep it that way.  It is much happier if it does not have to look at fears.  To keep the fear in check the false self creates an attachment to our spouse.  It hopes that by keeping that person around it will not have to look at the fear.
3. Now that the attachment is in place false self develops a new fear.  That is the fear of losing or upsetting our spouse.  Remember, the attachment is supposed to enable our spouse to assuage the underlying fear of being alone.  Now we have a fear of losing our spouse.  Our actions are based on this fear, but stem from what is mentioned in points one and two.

 

In summary: false self is fearful because it knows that it is not supposed to be alone and has not been properly trained.  This fear causes it to attach to its spouse.  That attachment in turn causes fear of losing the spouse.

 

This appears to be somewhat complicated.  When we start to look at our unhappiness it is hard enough to direct that attention to ourselves.  It is much easier to blame external situations for our unhappiness.

 

The Result

Our spouse decides that they no longer want to be with us.  Do we ask “could it be all the odd behavior we exhibited because of the attachment?”  No.  We blame it on the spouse because they have hurt us.  If we are hurt it has to be because of someone else now, doesn’t it?

 

You can see how it can take awhile to start to work through the fears and attachments.  The first step, as always, is accepting that we are the source of our unhappiness.  Then we must begin to honestly observe our behavior.

 

Gradually we will see that our spouse did not hurt us.  We acted out of a fear that came from our attachment to our spouse.  Our spouse did not reject us.  They rejected our behavior.  They probably gave us many chances to change that behavior.  After multiple chances it became apparent that we were more interested in our fear and its underlying attachment than relating to our spouse in a reasonable manner.

 

Our spouse did not understand all this.  They just saw our inability to control our behavior and rejected the behavior.  How many of us have been in more than one relationship that turned out like this?  I know that I have.

 

In reality, as we begin to understand our fears and attachments they are interrelated with other fears and attachments.  Sometimes it helps to follow one fear and its attachments to its roots.  Sometimes it is better to look at the attachments and then the fears. 

 

We can see how difficult it can become to start to pull apart our fears and attachments.  Please do not be concerned.  We all learn to do it in our own ways.  My method may help you and it might not.  It does not matter.

 

What matters is that you find your own way to resolve your fears and attachments.  As you do that you will start to notice that you are becoming a much happier person.

 

 

 

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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True Self Sees Everyone as an Equal

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Now to the daily post.  Yesterday we talked about how and why false self creates attachments to people.  Today we look at how our true self relates to people.  Are you ready?  Let’s go!

 

True Self Does Not Attach to People

Our True Self has known since its creation that it did not need other individuals in order to simply exist.  It also knows that although help from other individuals is important, it does not need any particular individual for any help that it might require.

 

We all require occasional help to live our lives.  Also, we all help other individuals with their lives.  True self understands this and recognizes that attachments are not necessary.  True self knows that when we truly need help that any necessary help will be found.  True self does not need to attach itself to that help; it only needs to allow that assistance to happen.

 

False self is afraid to lose any help that might come its way.  Therefore it attaches to anyone who it thinks might help it.  Then it becomes afraid that the help might be withdrawn and attaches to the person perceived as providing help.  Frequently it will manipulate the perceived helper through blame, guilt, or shame.  The manipulation and the attachment spoil any possibility of a positive relationship.

 

True self knows we do not need to attach to anyone offering assistance.  We know that we can eventually resolve any situation, and that the appropriate assistance will always be available when we truly need it.  This inner strength and self confidence keep true self from needing attachments of any sort, especially to people.

 

True Self Treats Everyone as an Equal

Because true self has no fear of people and needs no attachments to them, we can treat each person we meet with the dignity and respect that they deserve.  True self looks at the true self in the people we meet during the course of a day. It knows that all individuals are children of the same Creator and are deserving of the same dignity and respect we want for ourselves.

 

True self does not look at and judge the false self which an individual is using for this lifetime.  True self always looks at and attempts to relate to the other true self that is operating the false self with which it is interacting physically.  As true self we do not allow the false self of another individual to cause us to lose our respect for their true self.

 

What we are describing here is the true meaning of treating everyone as an equal.  This is the way our true self relates to all other individuals.  This is how we want other individuals to relate to us, so we relate to them in the same manner.  Also, our true self does not care if the other individual does not return the same equality to us.

 

As true self we know that we cannot be diminished by any actual or perceived disrespect from someone else.  True self knows that we are doing just fine regardless of what anyone else thinks or feels about us.  Remember – it is the false self that cares about what others think about it.

 

True Self Knows That We Can Learn From Anyone

Do you remember back when we said that the purpose of existence is to learn and grow and then to share that learning and growth with each other?  Well, here is the link if you need a refresher.  Because our true self knows this, it also knows that it can learn from any other individual, no matter their level of advancement.

 

As true self we know that anyone we encounter during our day can teach us something, whether they know it or not.  True self knows that we have experience from which any individual we encounter might learn.

 

This is a very humbling realization.  We can all learn and grow from each other.  Therefore as true self we see all individuals as being equal.  We are merely attempting to learn from each other and help each other to grow.

 

This is the great engine that moves all of Creation forward.  All individuals treat each other with dignity and respect.  The primary purpose of each individual is to learn what they can and then share that learning with those around them.

 

The False Self Gets in the Way

As we have shown numerous times, false self is afraid of everything.  It does not like this idea of treating everyone as an equal.  It does not like the idea of being able to learn from anyone it encounters during the day.  After all, the false self  has to prove it is someone.  How can it do that when it has to accept that someone else might be right?

 

Any one who has read the writings on this site for awhile will recognize that we almost always come back to observing the false self behavior.  This is always the first step towards overcoming that behavior and learning to find our true happiness.  Today is no different.  Observe how our false self approaches other people during the course of your day.  Does it treat them as equals?  Does it think it can learn from them?

 

When we are observing this behavior we are being our true self.  True self knows that we must monitor our false self behavior so that we can train it to listen to true self.

 

True self wants to treat each individual with dignity and respect.  When we do this we are being our true self, not our false self.  True self knows that we exist to learn and share that learning.  When we are doing this we are being our true self.

 

The more we practice being our true self the more we gradually train our false self out of its fears and attachments.  As we learn to be our true self, the true happiness we seek comes closer.  There is no longer any room for the unhappiness that comes from our false self.

 

I keep imploring you to learn these methods of finding your true happiness.  Yes, it is a bit of work.  However it is important that we do the work.  I want nothing more than for each of you to find your true happiness much sooner that I found mine.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

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Recognizing Our True Self – Releasing Attachments

Housekeeping

We start today with a bit of housekeeping.  For our readers who subscribe by email – you may not have received yesterday’s post.  Our subscription service has been doing some maintenance and the post might have slipped through the cracks.  If you missed yesterday’s post please click here.  Today’s post is based on what was said yesterday.

 

Thankful Friday

Our custom is to take a minute each Friday to thank those around us.  Today we would like to thank Oprah Winfrey for the work she is doing.  Her extended webcast discussion with Eckhart Tolle about his book “A New Earth” has been helpful to many individuals.  You can also obtain podcast versions of this webcast series and many of her XM Radio broadcasts on ITunes.  We have no financial or other relationship with Oprah Winfrey or Eckhart Tolle.  We only want to thank them for their work.

 

Next we would like to thank our readers who take the time from their busy days to read these posts.  We hope what we are saying is helping you to live a happier life.  Please let us know what else we can do to help you achieve your goal of that happier life.

 

Finally we would like to thank WordPress and FeedBurner for providing the free services that make this site possible.  Thanks!

 

Recap

Yesterday we looked at the false self and its attachments.  We talked about a few common attachments and got a feeling for how unhappy we become when we live a life controlled by those attachments.

 

We ended the post by recognizing that we have all asked ourselves at one time or another “Isn’t there a better way?”  The idea I was attempting to raise was that we have all looked at out lives and recognized our unhappiness.  We have all said there must be a way to be more happy.

 

There is.  Let’s go find it!

 

True Self Sees Through the Attachments

One of the points that I am attempting to convey on this site is that we have never been totally disconnected from our true self.  It has always been there giving us guidance.  We have not listened to it for a variety of reasons, but it has always been there.

 

One of the best ways to recognize that the true self has been attempting to guide our life is when we step back and ask the question “Isn’t there a better way?”  Remember, true self is the observer.  When we ask this kind of a question we are asking it from the perspective of true self.  True self is observing our life and our attachments and is attempting to tell false self that there is a better way.  The problem comes with the answers to the question.

 

A Tangle of Interlocking Attachments

When we ask a question like “Isn’t there a better way?” we always get an answer.  That answer may be drowned out by the false self chatter, it may be an answer that we do not like, and it may be an answer that we cannot yet understand.  However, we always get an answer.

 

Let’s take a look at an example of a question that most of us have asked at one time or another about a relationship which we were in when we asked the question.  The relationship has become unhappy and we ask “Isn’t there a better way?”  The question we actually asked was probably a bit different, but the spirit was the same.  We wanted to find a way back to happiness.

 

Let’s take an answer to that question and look at some of the possible interlocking attachments that might have kept us from either accepting the answer or doing anything about making a choice for happiness.

 

So we ask our question and we get the answer that we need to end our relationship with this person and move on with our life.  True self has recognized that this relationship will not bring us happiness.  Now false self has to sort through its attachments to determine if it wants to end the relationship.  That sounds silly, but that is what happens.

 

A few common attachments that false self may have are things like “What will people think?”, “Where will I find someone else?”, “This person provides my security, how will I replace that?”  Does anyone see a pattern in these questions?  Raise your hand if you do.

 

That is correct.  All these questions have to do with some external situation.  Caring about what other people will think has become more important than finding our happiness.  Finding someone else implies that we are unable to exist without a close personal relationship.  For us to be “whole” we need someone else.  Clinging to someone because they provide security is saying that we do not have the power or ability to provide our own security.

 

Each of these attachments is looking to some external situation for something which can only be found inside.  True self provides our security.  True self does not need anyone else to be whole; it is already whole, thank you very much.  True self does not care what people think.

 

True self knows that other true selves will be supportive of its actions.  Someone else’s false self may castigate us for breaking up a relationship, but their true self will recognize that we are choosing for our happiness.  Who do we want to listen to, their supportive true self or their judgmental false self?

 

Learning to See the Attachments

In this example I am not trying to say that real life is not more complicated than the few attachments we have looked at.  However, this is entirely representative of actual situations.  In fact here are many more attachments that we deal with when we have to break up a relationship.  If there were only these three then breaking up would be easy to do.

 

The point here is that we need to start to see the attachments.  Not just when we ask true self for guidance regarding a relationship, but any time we recognize that we are unhappy.  Remember, as soon as we see that we are unhappy we have begun observing from true self.  The answers will be associated with pursuing our happiness and releasing attachments.  Please learn to at least hear the answers, even if you cannot yet do anything with the answers by releasing the attachments.  Eventually you will be able to utilize them, so for now at least listen to them.

 

Once again, this is a skill that will take a bit of time to master.  It starts with recognizing this pattern:

 

1. Without recognizing it we get caught in an attachment.
2. We become unhappy.
3. We recognize that we are unhappy.
4. We realize that when we recognize that we are unhappy we have become the observer.  Once we have become the observer our perspective is that of true self.
5. True self will always have answers that will resolve our unhappiness.  We need to listen to those answers because they will tell us to release some of our attachments.
6. If we cannot yet do anything with those answers, we need to at least acknowledge that they exist.
7. Practice, practice, practice.

 

That is all for today, and this week.  Please learn to recognize that voice of true self that is telling you to let go of your attachments.  I want you to find your happiness sooner than I found mine.

 

Have a great weekend!

 

Until next week –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Recognizing the False Self – Attachments are Painful

Recap

Today we continue with our week of looking at the contrast between True Self and False Self.  In the last two days we heard about how the false self is the source of all of our fears.  We saw that fear is something that is learned during each lifetime.  Yesterday we got a feeling for how we can overcome our fears when we recognize the power of our true selves.

 

Today we will look at why the false self creates attachments and how those attachments cause unhappiness.  Tomorrow we will finish the week by hearing about how to use our true self to break those attachments.

 

How False Self Creates Attachments

We have learned that false self is afraid of everything, even its own shadow.  It hijacks those fears to take over our life until we use true self to retrain false self to not be afraid.

 

There are a lot of things that false self does because of those fears.  We have stated that false self knows that it is not supposed to be alone to make all the decisions about the lifetime.  Consequently it looks for external things to help it make those decisions.

 

In other words, false self is looking at external objects, people, ideas, etc. for validation.  Through that validation false self feels less afraid.  False self finds things other than true self for validation and gains an artificial sense of security from that sham validation.

 

The next thing that false self does is begin to think that it must attach to those things from which it gained this artificial sense of security.  Gradually (sometimes immediately) it forms an attachment to these external situations and then mistakes the attachment for itself.  In other words, the false self begins to think it is the things to which it has formed the attachments.

 

As we have seen in our previous posts regarding illusions and happiness, whenever we look outside of our self for happiness we will only find an illusion.  To expand on that idea, whenever we have an attachment we are accepting that something outside of us can make us happy.  Whenever we think that something outside of us will create our identity we are accepting an illusion which will inevitably lead to unhappiness.

 

Examples

Let’s look at a few common examples of attachments.  We will look at why we create the attachment, why we maintain the attachment, and why that attachment will always lead to unhappiness.  Tomorrow we will hear about how to start to overcome these attachments and find true happiness.

 

Attachment to Our Body

Entire books have been written about this attachment, but we will attempt to summarize the discussion in a few paragraphs.  As we have heard about, the false self is born without fears.  It is also born without attachments.  Initially it looks for guidance from true self.  That process is not known on this planet at this time so false self starts to look to itself for guidance.

 

False self knows that it is not supposed to be alone and begins to look around its immediate vicinity for something to use to create an identity.  Of course one of the first things it finds is the physical body it is using for this lifetime.  It creates an attachment to that body and begins to think that the body is its identity.  This is reinforced because everyone around the young child has the same attachment so there is nothing to invalidate the attachment.

 

This attachment causes pain in many ways.  First, we fear if we lose the body or any part of it we will be losing our “self”.  False self mistakenly thinks that any injury or sickness means an injury to our “self” so we must feel pain.  After all, an injury to our “self” has to be the worst thing we can possibly imagine.  As we become adults we have become so tightly attached to our body that the least perceived threat of injury to our body causes us to exhibit extremely fearful behavior.

 

Attachment to Our Ideas

Next to the attachment to our body, the attachment to our ideas is probably the strongest and the most common.  At an early age we train ourselves out of receiving any ideas from true self.  The only source of ideas is now false self.

 

It does not matter whether false self originates an idea or it receives the idea from its surroundings.  Either way, once false self stumbles upon an idea that it agrees with it attaches itself to that idea.

 

False self is always looking for ways to create or validate its identity.  These ideas get caught up in that search.  False self now starts to think that it is the ideas and thoughts that it perceives.  This always strikes me as sad.  Why should we choose to create or identity out of thoughts of hate, intolerance, greed, and the like?  It does not make any sense, but we do it any way.

 

Just like with the attachment to the body, false self views any questioning of its ideas as an attack on its identity.  If we think that we are our ideas, then anyone who does not agree with us must not like us.  If they do not like us, how can we like them?

 

Hopefully you can see how quickly this way of thinking can degenerate into outright conflict.

 

Attachment to Possessions

So far we have looked at how easy it is for an infant false self to become attached to its body and its ideas.  It is pretty easy to see that the things (body, thoughts) the infant false self perceives in its immediate vicinity are the thing to which the false self will attach most easily.

 

Another early attachment is to possessions.  The infant false self has its body, its ideas, and its possessions as its immediate physical surroundings for its first few years.  There are people around and it attaches to people, but that will be a separate discussion.

 

As we have seen with the other attachments, the infant false self views the physical objects in its immediate vicinity as part of its identity.  Just like the other attachments, any loss of the physical object is viewed as loss of identity.  Therefore loss of any object, or even the thought of the possibility of losing an object, will cause unhappiness.

 

Is it any wonder we are so obsessed with physical objects?  We attach to them as infants, never learn that they are not our identity, and spend our life acquiring them and then fearing that we might lose them.

 

Have you ever said to yourself that there has to be a better way?  That was your true self attempting to show you the way to true happiness.  We will talk about that tomorrow.

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Recognizing Our True Self – Seeing Through Fear

Yesterday we took an in depth look at where our fears come from and how to resolve them.  We heard a great deal about how the false self becomes fearful and then runs our life based on those fears.

 

Today we will flip that perspective and look at our True Self.  We will learn how to feel when our True Self is in control.  Are you ready?  Let’s go!

 

Learning to Sense Our True Self

We have spent the last two posts looking at the true self and the false self.  Yesterday we started to learn how the false self develops fears and then runs our life based on those fears.  This leads to a very unhappy lifetime.

 

We also looked at the idea of remembering previous times in this lifetime when we had experienced a fear and had overcome that fear.  In today’s post we will learn what actually happened as we overcame that fear.

 

When we look back at a previous fear, who is looking at that fear?  When we were actually in the situation when we overcame the fear, who decided to get rid of that particular fear?  The answer to both of these questions is our true self.

 

What we are learning here is how to glimpse our true self.  The false self cannot overcome a fear.  It can only go along with the fear and let the fear control it.  This is because the false self is based on fear and cannot resolve any fears.  True self has no fears.  Therefore it can resolve fear.  Whenever we have resolved a fear it has been an example of our true self stepping in and taking control of the lifetime at that particular moment.

 

Our true self is always calm, quiet, peaceful, and confident.  Whenever we are experiencing these things we are experiencing true self.  True self is a quiet little voice that is always telling us what to do.  It is always correct.  When we have conquered a fear we have listened to that voice.

 

We have all sensed that peaceful strength.  We have all seen the power that is there.  What we have not done is listened to that little voice long enough to retrain our false self.  Because false self is fearful it is always worrying.  That constant chatter in our heads is coming from our worrying false self.  False self has no confidence so it has to be constantly worrying about things. The only way it can do that worrying is through constant chatter.

 

Quieting the Chatter

We use many different methods to quiet the chatter.  Some of us use yoga, meditation, or prayer.  There are many great ways to learn to quiet the mind.  Please find one that is good for you.

 

Some of us use more self destructive methods such as drug or alcohol addiction.  Some of us use sexual relationships to quiet the chatter.  The self destructive methods actually increase the chatter because they create or embed more fear.

 

We can learn to quiet the mind through means like yoga or meditation.  However, once we have quieted the mind we need to start to recognize that the false self is still chattering.  We have made it easier to hear the voice of true self, but false self has not given up.

 

What makes false self start to give up?  When we learn to operate from that little, quiet voice of true self we gradually start to take back control from false self.  We hear something that true self wants us to do and start to do it.  False self becomes fearful and starts to tell us why we “can’t do that.”

 

At this point we can either give into the fears that false self is using to convince us that we “can’t do that”, or we can tell it to be quiet and trust true self.  Without knowing what we were doing, this is exactly what we have done every time we have overcome a fear in the past.  False self says NO!  We say “trust me”.  We resolve the fear based on that trust.

 

Now it is time for us to learn how to make the choice to deliberately behave in this manner.  We have done it in the past without knowing we were doing so.  To overcome our fears from here forward we need to recognize this process that we are already using.  The more we recognize and practice this process the better we will get at ridding ourselves of fear.

 

Recognize True Self

True self is the observer.  Whenever we catch a glimpse of false self being fearful we are seeing from the viewpoint of our true self.  Whenever we decide that we want to overcome a fear – that is a decision that is coming from our true self.  The more we can recognize when we are operating from true self the greater the contrast with false self will become.

 

At first we may become frustrated.  We catch a glimpse of our fears.  We recognize that we do not want to be fearful.  Then it all falls apart and we get caught up in the fears.  It may be days or weeks until we remember that we had even seen the fears.

 

Do not worry.  This is normal.  The important thing is that you observed the fears.  Then you remembered that you observed the fears, but got caught up in them.  Believe it or not this is an excellent start.  We all want the fears to go away immediately and become frustrated when they do not magically vanish.  Think about this – it took a few years to embed those fears in your behavior and it will take a few years to rid yourself of them.

 

How long will it take?  There is no answer for that.  However, the more we can learn to be the observer and the more quickly we can learn to get rid of our fears the sooner we find our true happiness.  Remember, it’s a journey, not a destination.  Relax and enjoy the journey.  We have been collecting fears for many years.  We have just recently decided to see through them.  It will take a little time to do so.

 

Summary – How to Recognize True Self

Here are a few points that may help us to recognize our true self.

 

1.     Practice being the observer.  Whenever we can see our fears we are being the observer.  When we are observing our false self, by default, that has to be from the viewpoint of our true self.

2.     Listen to that quiet voice.  False self is full of fear and that fear creates constant chatter.  We must learn to quiet our minds in whatever way is appropriate for us.  As we learn to listen to that quiet little voice we also learn to tell false self to trust us.  In time false self will learn to trust us.

3.     Practice, practice, practice.  We are learning a new skill.  It will take time to master this skill.  It is a process at which we will be mastering for the rest of our lives.  It does not matter how quickly we make our progress.  It only matters that we start.  Start now, not next week.  The sooner we get comfortable with this process the sooner we begin to glimpse what a truly happy life we can choose to have.

 

Please do not fight this process as much as I fought it.  Please start right now learning to observe your fears and accepting that you can overcome them.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Quo Vadis – Where Are We Going?

 

In today’s post we ask the question “where are we going?”  I have been writing this blog for six weeks and it is time that we take a few minutes and reflect where we started and where we want to go.  But first…

 

Thankful Friday

As is our custom on this site on Friday we extend our thanks to some of those around us for the help they have given to this project.

 

First, I would like to thank Havar for the inspiration and guidance he gave me during the fourteen years in which he was a physical presence in my life.  I would also like to thank him for the continuing assistance he has given me in the sixteen years since he left the physical structure that he was using on this planet.  I have never known a more patient, wise, and loving person.

 

I would also like to thank all of our readers who make the daily effort to read these scribblings.  I would especially like to thank those readers who subscribe to this newsletter on a daily basis.  If you would like to receive this newsletter in your email on a daily basis just click on this SUBSCRIBE link.

 

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Quo Vadis?

Quo vadis is a Latin phrase that means “Where am I going?”  In context here we will use it to mean “Where are we going?”

 

Where We Began

When I began writing this blog six weeks ago I knew I had to explain some background information.  This includes the posts regarding what Crystal Children, Indigo Children, and Star Children are.  Then we looked at the status of the project that brought the various groups here.  Finally we spent a lot of time looking at many of the specifics of the planetary rebalancing that we are beginning to experience.

 

I wanted to get all that background information published so that when it is needed it is there to be used.  That background information has never been the sole purpose of these writings.  That information is the context within which the rest of the journey is travelled.  If we were to concentrate solely on those sensational ideas then we would be guilty of paying attention to the side show and missing the main event.

 

Where We Are Going

The main event is finding our spirituality.  That is the true purpose of our work on this site.  If we were to have a mission statement it would be along the lines of “Helping those who identify themselves as Crystal Children, Indigo Children, or Star Children to find their individual spirituality and learn to live happily within a world that does not understand them.”  Or something like that.

 

I started writing about illusions and some of the other spiritual one liners that were published recently in order to start the true work.  Let’s take a look at an idea that is similar to some of the others that we have seen recently.

 

We are living on a planet that is caught up in illusions and does not want to learn to see through those illusions.  These illusions start with seeking happiness from an external source and permeate everything on the planet.  This planet is also beginning a rebalancing of all of its natural systems.  This would not be a problem to the inhabitants if they were able to see that their happiness comes from within.  Instead they view the planet as a large part of their happiness and the rebalancing is already starting to make many of them extremely unhappy.  To say the least.

 

Where Do We Start Our Work?

Given the two situations discussed in the previous paragraph, where should the Crystal Children, Indigo Children, and Star Children start their work?  Let’s look at a few options.

 

We could start by telling everyone about the coming rebalancing.  We would be correct that it is coming.  However, what purpose would it serve?  I have been trying to tell people about it for thirty years and no one really cares.  They are caring more now because it is becoming obvious, but they are insisting that it can be stopped.  We have some historical data to consider as well.  The biblical Noah was attempting to say the same things before Atlantis occurred.  The Bible tells us that he was not successful.  He had a much smaller audience then compared to now.  Why should we think we will be any more successful?

 

That leaves working with understanding that our happiness comes from within.  This is the same thing as becoming spiritual.  Should we go around and tell everyone how spiritual we are and that they need to do the same?  It seems to me that a lot of people have tried this throughout history.  Once again, why should we think we will be more successful?

 

We Start Where We Are

The answer is that we start where we are.  We say that we are a Crystal Child, Indigo Child, or Star Child and that our primary duty on this planet during this lifetime is to pursue our own spirituality.  That means that we pursue our answers and happiness from within us.  We learn to see through the illusions to find our true happiness.

 

We do not have to change our jobs, change our relationships, or leave our family to begin our work.  As we pursue our spirituality we will find answers to any situations that these things present.  The important thing is to find our spirituality and share it with those around us who are open to what we have to share.

 

Think about what will be the most important thing that this planet could have after the rebalancing finishes.  In my mind that would be a group of people dedicated to their spirituality and who are actively assisting others to find their spirituality.

 

This group of people needs to be from all walks of life.  They will need to be active within the community of the planet.  They will be doctors, teachers, truck drivers, factory workers, yes, even politicians.  They will need to exemplify the spiritual life in their daily life.  Their calmness, strength, and insight will inspire others who survive the rebalancing to seek their own spirituality.  Let’s start that group by learning to be those things right now.

 

Well, that’s all for this week.  We have finally taken a look at where all this is going.  We need to seek our own spirituality and become more involved in the community of the planet.  Gradually we will become the example that others will want to emulate.  We do not have to say anything.  We just have to be our true selves.  We will talk more about that next week.

 

Have a great weekend!

 

Until Monday –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Life is Doing Fine – It’s People Who Have Problems

 

“Life is doing fine – it’s people who have problems.”  This was said to me many years ago.  I was very depressed at the time and I would not allow anything to cheer me up.  So my teacher/guide said this to me hoping that I would see the joke involved and learn that my problems were of my own choosing.

 

Our message today for the Crystal Children, Indigo Children, and Star Children is a reminder that we should not take life too seriously.  Sure, there are many things that we see which need to be done to make this planet a better place to live.  Sure, we all want to do something to improve the place.  However, we need to learn to maintain our perspective.  Despite all the “problems” that we see life is doing just fine.

 

I have thought about this saying may times during the intervening years.  Each time I reflect on the ideas embodied in this phrase I see more truth and more humor in it.

 

The Truths

First, let’s look at some of the truths.  Life is doing fine.  Look around you.  There are most likely many sorts of animals.  First there are the pets.  Chances are you have a dog or a cat in the household.  They are doing fine, especially the cat.

 

Our dogs tend to take on our problems more than our cats.  If we have a problem the dog will be more likely to reflect the problem.  However, when we come home after not seeing our dog all day doesn’t he greet us with joy?  He does not have a care in the world.  Only if he senses we have a problem will he seem like he has a problem.

 

Our cats definitely do not have any problems.  Cats sort of care when we come home, but they are not demonstrative in the way that dogs are.  But they will definitely not take on our problems.  If we decide that we have a problem our cat says that it is most definitely our problem, not his.

 

How about the birds outside?  Don’t they get up every morning and start singing as if they do not have a care in the world?  That is because they don’t.  There may have been a tremendous storm last night but they carry on as if nothing had happened.

 

The same goes for the rest of the wild or domestic animals around us.  The deer do not mind that the stock market crashed yesterday.  It makes no difference to the bears that gasoline has gotten very expensive.  What does a whale care about how much a loaf of bread costs?

 

Now how about the plant life all around us?  They continue to grow without any care for the latest celebrity gossip from Hollywood.  What does a tree care which movie stars are sleeping with each other?  What do the cactus in Arizona care about the new TV shows this season?  What does a field of wheat care about which celebrity exposed what part of their anatomy on national TV?

 

The point to all of this is that there is life going on all around us.  Life is continuing just fine from day to day and from moment to moment without knowing or caring about all the things on which we seem to waste our thinking.  We are so self centered that we define life as what happens to us.  If we are having a bad day, then life is horrible.  Sorry, it is only horrible for you.  It is not horrible for me, for my dog, or the trees in the forest.  The rest of us are doing just fine.

 

The Humor

Second, let’s look at the humor of the statement.  It’s people who have problems.  I have been one of those who thought life was just terrible if everything was not going great with me.  Unfortunately I was looking at external causes for my happiness, and therefore I never found it.

 

I used to think life was just horrible.  I avoided it by using any escape mechanism that was at hand.  The more I attempted to run away from life the more it refused to go anywhere.  It was doing just fine and it did not need to go anywhere.  The joke became the more I tried to run away the more it just stayed there.

 

Imagine the old gag where somebody gets sticky paper stuck to the bottom of their shoe.  They put their other shoe on the paper and it sticks to that shoe.  Then they grab it with their hand and it gets stuck to their hand.  We all know the joke.

 

So that was me trying to run away from life.  No matter where I went, no matter what I did, it would stick to me.  Once again, it was doing just fine and did not need to go anywhere.  I had the problem and was attempting to escape the problem by running away from life.  The more I ran, the more I was back in the middle of my life.

 

The Punch Line

So what is the punch line?

 

The punch line is that we are all living.  Therefore, we are all doing just fine.  We just need to accept that we are doing fine.

 

If we would rather blame our problems on external causes, we can do so.  However, when we blame our problems on external causes we are attempting to run away from life.  And, as we just saw, we cannot run away from life.  It will find us wherever we are.  It will attempt to tell us that it is doing just fine.  It will say to us “You have the problem, not me.”

 

At that point we can start to admit that we have the problem and start to work through it.  This will gradually bring us towards finding our true happiness.

 

Or we can say that we do not have a problem, it is life’s fault, not ours.  As long as we continue to blame an external cause we will be blocking ourselves from finding our true happiness.

 

I sincerely hope that each of you learn this lesson much more quickly than I did.  I wish you a happy life and that you do not take as long to accept your happiness as it took me.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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