Accept and Take Control

October 24, 2008

Yesterday we took a closer look at the concept of acceptance.  Today we continue that look by learning how we empower ourselves when we accept a situation.  When we accept a situation we can take control of it.

 

Thankful Friday

Today I want to thank everyone on the planet for their efforts in improving themselves.  We do not always agree with the ways that people choose for their self improvement, but we must understand that they are choosing their path with their free will.  We learn by allowing the disagreement and learning from that disagreement.

 

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Acceptance is power

Yesterday we looked at the idea that when we are not accepting of a situation then we are in denial.  Denial comes from false self attachments, and attachments always cause pain.  When we are not accepting we are in pain.

 

Today we will look at the other side of acceptance.  Yesterday we saw what it can do to us.  Today we will look at what it can do for us.

 

As we saw yesterday, when we do not accept a situation we cannot change it.  Because we are not accepting we have no control of the situation.  The situation that we are denying always dictates to us.

 

However, when we accept a situation we now accept the control of the situation.  We may not always see the entire scope of a situation when we first accept it, but in time, that will become clear to us.  As long as we remain accepting of a situation we want to understand it completely.  That desire to understand will cause us to dig further into the situation to discover the complete situation.

 

What is control?

What do I mean by control?  In a situation we can never control anyone but ourself.  We may not like what other people are doing, but we cannot control them.  The best we can do to others within a situation is to attempt to influence them.

 

Influence is not the same as control.  The methods of influence are a different subject and will need to be addressed in a future post.  For now, let’s accept that when we are attempting to control others we are interfering with their free will.  We cannot control others within a situation; we should not attempt to do so.  Influence is all we should attempt.

 

How do we know when we are attempting to control rather than influence?  Knowing the difference between control and influence is something that we learn.  A good sign of attempting to control is when we try to force a situation.  Force usually comes from control.  Also, when we are attempting to force a situation it does not feel right.  Our internal guidance will tell us when we are forcing a situation rather than influencing it.

 

If you would like to know more about the difference between control and influence submit a comment.  We can start a discussion regarding this idea.

 

An example

I am sure we all have examples of a situation in which we empowered ourself when we accepted it.  I will submit to you a situation that helped me to learn about acceptance.  I learned a few lessons in how to take control of myself so that the others did not dictate my actions.

 

About twenty years ago I was living in upstate New York.  I was dating a woman who had visitation rights to her children on alternate weekends.  This was a standard arrangement except that the children lived two hours away from us in Rochester every other weekend.

 

This woman was still fighting the divorce with her ex-husband.  The divorce was finalized, but neither one of them could let it go.  The ex-husband was supposed to bring the children to my lady friend on Friday after work and he was supposed to pick them up on Sunday afternoon.  He made the four hour round trip from Rochester.

 

Unfortunately, he used the children as pawns to get his ex-wife upset.  He would show up late to pick up and drop off the children.  She would get upset and then get mad at him.  And the fight would continue.  Also, the uncertainty of when the children would arrive would upset any plans my lady friend and I would have.

 

After a few weekends of this behavior I decided to accept the situation.  I could not control any of the people in the situation.  I could only control myself and influence the others.

 

I decided that my lady friend and I would drive to Rochester to pick the children up on Friday and then drop them off on Sunday.  We were going to make the four hour round trip twice every other weekend.

 

At first my friend argued with me.  “He’s supposed to drive them and I am going to make him do it” was the initial response.  Gradually I was able to show her that her ex would continue to mess with her as long as she let him do the driving.  I influenced her to allow me to take control of an aspect of the situation.

 

We also influenced the ex-husband to be a bit more responsible because we caused him to have to keep his word about when the children would be exchanged.  We also influenced the children to be able to trust that there was some stability returning to their lives.  They were not as much at the whim of their parents’ moods as they had been before.

 

Did I attempt to control this situation?  No – I only attempted to control myself.  I controlled myself in that I made sure that I made the drive on Friday and Sunday every other week.  I made sure that I was on time and that I could be trusted to deliver the children safely.

 

This control of self came from an acceptance of the situation.  I accepted that the parents were going to continue to fight.  I accepted that the ex-husband would not be reliable regarding the punctuality of exchanging the children.  After the acceptance I took control of myself and the aspects of the situation that I could control.  From that acceptance and self control I was able to influence the others in the situation and gradually bring about a more workable situation.

 

Accept and take control

I hope you have seen the power of acceptance.   Acceptance is the first step in taking control of your life.  Acceptance is the path to true happiness.  Please see that when we are not accepting we are in denial and pain.  By accepting we take control of ourself and work towards our true happiness.

 

That is all for this week.  Have a great weekend!

 

Until Monday –

 

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We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Who Makes These Movies?

October 22, 2008

Who makes the movie of our life?  Do we have control of our movie or is someone else writing the scenes, casting the actors, and determining the plot?  Today we look at how to write our own movie.

 

Butch Cassidy and Sundance

Today’s post was inspired by a scene in Richard Bach’s book Illusions which you will find on our recommended resources page.  There is a scene in Chapter 8 of that book where Richard and Don go to a theater to watch the movie “Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid.”

 

In this scene Don interrupts Richard with a series of questions while Richard is engrossed in the movie.  These questions all illustrate the metaphor of a lifetime as a movie.  If you have not read this book I highly recommend it.  If you have not read it in a few years please reread it.  You will be surprised at how much more you understand it since the last time you read it.

 

Today we will look at one of the questions that Don asks Richard towards the end of the chapter.  “Who writes these movies Richard?”  Don is asking Richard who writes the movies of our lives.

 

Who writes your movie?

So much of our training as children is that our life is out of our hands.  At home we are told that our parents make our decisions for us and we have little choice.

 

At school we are told that the school, the government, the politicians make the choices that shape our world and we do not have much control over them.  At our place of worship we are told that there is a divine plan and that even though we do not know what that plan is we must accept and follow it.

 

Is it any wonder that people grow up thinking that they have no control over what happens to them?  Is it surprising that we think that we are in a movie and we have no control of how that movie is being made?

 

We produce our own movie

Let’s take a quick look at what a movie producer is.  There are many different types of movie producers.  At the highest levels the movie producer is the one who finds the money, selects the script, selects the director, approves the cast and crew, approves the final editing of the movie and then goes out and sells the movie.  The producer is the one who gets the movie made.

 

Let’s take a look at how we can take control of the movie that is our life.

 

First, we are the one who decides the script.  In our post of October 10 we talked about our life being a result of our decisions.  In that post we stated that our true self decided to be on this planet at this time.  From that decision everything else that has happened in our life has been the result of subsequent decisions.

 

Casting decisions

We have produced our own movie through the decisions we have made about how to live this lifetime.  There have been times when we did not like the cast in our movie.  We made decisions where we wrote people out of our movie.  We have also decided that we needed other people in the movie so we wrote the scenes that brought them into our movie.

 

We can write anyone we want either into or out of our movie.

 

It may be difficult for many people to accept or understand that they have the power to cast their movie.  However, think back to a time when there was someone in your movie that you did not want to be there.  You found a way to get them out of your movie.  It may have taken a bit of time and a lot of effort, but you found a way to write them out of your movie.

 

Writing decisions

In the previous section we talked about casting decisions.  Some casting decisions are similar to writing decisions.  Let’s take a look at some other types of writing decisions.

 

Let’s say that you went to college.  There could have been several reasons that you did this.  Some people go to college because their family has enough money and it is the expected behavior.  However, you could have written a different scene at that point.  You could have written a scene where you decide to travel for a few years before you go to college.

 

Let’s say you went to college because you wanted to become a doctor.  Your family did not have much money and none of them had ever been to college before.  They did not share your vision and wanted you to become a carpenter and work in the family construction business.  You decided to write the scene that put you through college and medical school.  You chose to write your movie the way you wanted to see it.

 

Comedy or tragedy

As the producer of your movie you can choose to write a comedy or tragedy.  Many of us choose to write tragedies.  I think a lifetime that is as joyful as a comedy is a much more pleasant experience.

 

Movies that are tragedies are mostly false self based.  False self does not have any true happiness.  True happiness can only come from true self.  That is why we have spent so much time on this site writing about true self and true happiness.  When we are truly happy the tragedy that so many people choose cannot affect us.  We see the tragedy for what it is and choose for true happiness instead.

 

The divine plan

Our false self is taught that everything is part of a divine plan.  We “cannot know” what that plan is but we must let it control us.  Many religions and spiritual disciplines view that there is a greater force such as God or the Holy Spirit that tells us what to do with our life.

 

To me, that would interfere with our free will and our choice to learn as we choose.  The divine plan is that we choose our life, make our movies, and learn from those choices.

 

The divine plan is for us to produce, write, cast, direct, edit, and distribute our movies they way that we want.  If the divine plan tells us how to make our movie then it is taking away our free will.

 

We make our movies and learn from the mistakes how to make a better movie the next lifetime.  Overtime we learn that making movies is a happy experience, not a tragedy based on false self.

 

Go make your movie!  Have fun!  If you are not having fun then you are not following the divine plan.

 

That is all for today.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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The Man on the Bench

October 20, 2008

This weekend I was blown away by a movie.  It was not a new movie, but it delivered a message that was very important to me.  Hopefully you will be inspired in a similar manner.

 

Welcome Back

I hope that everyone had a great weekend.  We had some great weather in this part of the northeastern US.  I had a chance to get out for a few walks and also saw some very good movies.  In preparation for the coming cold weather I made a couple of batches of chili using my homemade chili powder and using dried beans instead of canned ones.

 

So much for me.  Drop me a note and tell us what you did with your weekend.

 

Let’s take a look at a great movie that I saw this weekend.

 

A simple man

I did not see the movie Forrest Gump when it originally ran in theaters.  I saw it once on videotape several years after it came out.  I remember being impressed by the movie but I was not moved as deeply as I was when I viewed it again this weekend.

 

Forrest Gump is a simple man.  The movie opens with him sitting on a bench waiting for a bus.  A woman sits down next to him on the bench and he starts to talk to her.  It is immediately clear that Forrest Gump does not have a great deal of intelligence.  At one time people like him were called slow.

 

However, as Forrest tells his story to a succession of people who share the bench with him, it becomes very clear that what he lacks in intelligence he makes up for with insight.  As Forrest Gump tells his story in his simple and unassuming way it becomes clear that he was a witness to many of the most important events of what shaped America from the 1950’s to the 1980’s.

 

When you only have a hammer

There is a saying along the lines of “if the only tool you have is a hammer then everything looks like a nail to you.”  I attempt to keep this in mind when I start to view everything from the standpoint of my two concepts of true self and false self.  However, I think those concepts can be illustrated quite well here.

 

What struck me about the character of Forrest Gump was how he was able to see though the false self of almost everyone around him.  He did not confront people about their false self.  He accepted the false self but did not let it affect what he wanted to do.

 

Forrest Gump casually tells us why people are doing what they are doing.  He describes someone’s false self behavior and lets us see how that behavior is getting in their way.  Friends like Lieutenant Dan and Jenny get involved with self destructive substance abuse and sexual behaviors.  Forrest does not judge them for their behavior – he sees the true self inside that is working to get past the destructive behavior.

 

Never once do we find that Forrest Gump is considering taking on any of the false self behaviors of those around him.  He looks at the situation in front of him and decides what to do based on his internal compass.  That compass always points towards compassion and caring for those around him, keeping his word, and doing what he can to give to others.

 

I do not think that the idea of taking something ever crossed his mind.  He always gave and used whatever came his way to move onto the next phase of his life.  I guess he figures that what ever he got was a result of what he gave.  If he gave he would always get something of value in return.  For Forrest Gump, no further thought was necessary.

 

What moved me

The music in a movie is very important to me.  Growing up during the 1960’s and the 1970’s was a time of great change in the popular music.  The music of my youth was very emotional and important to me.  That music got me through many dark days.  There were years that my only emotional release was the music.

 

The music of this movie was like the soundtrack of my youth.  The songs always seemed to be the best ones for the scenes in the movie.  As I watched Forrest going through his deeply moving and emotionally challenging times, many of my pent up and unresolved emotions were flowing through me.  I had not recognized that I still had so much stuff locked away inside of me.

 

Upon reflection it seems that I may have tied the music of the period to my self destructive behavior.  Just like Jenny and Lieutenant Dan, I am still working through that behavior.  The music must have triggered some of the sadness associated with my self destructive period.

 

Monument Valley

Another very personal part of the movie was the scene shot in Monument Valley, Utah.  This was during the part of the movie when Forrest was running across the country.  For no apparent reason he decided to stop as he was running through Monument Valley.  Follow this link to see a picture of the spot where he actually stopped.

 

Monument Valley has been important to me.  As an avid fan of movies directed by John Ford I know this scenery well.  He directed some very famous westerns in this area.  The two most famous ones are probably Stagecoach and She Wore a Yellow Ribbon.

 

Several years ago I spent three and a half days in the area.  It is some of the grandest scenery that I have ever experienced.  I am almost always overcome with emotions when I view pictures of this area.

 

One last note

The last thing that I want to discuss regarding this movie is the scene where Forrest Gump asks Jenny to marry him.  When Jenny does not say “yes” Forrest asks her if it is because she does not love him.

 

As I watched the movie I realized that it was not because she did not love Forrest.  Jenny could not marry Forrest because she did not love herself at that point.  No one says this.  No one even implies this.  This is just my analysis.  Please tell me why you think Jenny does not agree to marry Forrest.  I think this is a fascinating part of the movie and would love to hear your thoughts.

 

That is all for today.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

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We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Love vs. Acceptance Part 2

October 17, 2008

Yesterday we started taking a look at how I learned that acceptance is the same as unconditional love.  Today we will hear some additional thoughts about how to include the idea of acceptance into our concept of love.

 

Thankful Friday

As always, we begin our Friday post with our thanks.  I would like to thank JK for sharing her comments and stories with our readers.  We are attempting to develop this blog as a dialog and those comments were helpful.

 

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We are still talking about “love and light”

Yesterday we got a feel for how the spiritual/new age community approached the idea of love thirty years ago.  Today we take a look at where we are today.

 

In the last few years I have begun to associate more with those that are in what I consider the “spiritual” community.  In my readings and my discussions I have come across ideas that are almost identical to what I encountered twenty-five years ago.  Not the spaceships.   I mean the idea that all we need to do is become filled with “love and light” and everything will be just fine.  OK – the question still is: How do we do that?

 

Attempting the explanation

Initially I tried to explain to any one who would listen that being accepting was at the base of being loving.  After all, how can you love someone if you do not accept them for who they are and where they are?  For that matter, how can you love yourself when you do not accept yourself for who you are and where you are?  Some people did not accept this idea and others say that they accept it, but still cling to the idea that love and light is “all you need to be”.

 

In thinking about how to further explain what I have come to understand, I have found several interesting ideas.  First, almost everyone will easily identify themselves as a loving person.  Parents who mistreat their children view themselves as loving parents because they have what they think is the child’s best interest at heart.  People who start wars view themselves as loving people because they love their country and want to do what is best for their family and countrymen.

 

One doesn’t get very far when they try to show someone that they are not loving.  That person has a very strong attachment to the idea they are a loving person.  When we imply that they are not loving it usually just strengthens that attachment.

 

So, the idea of getting people to become more loving by suggesting that they are not loving is out.  Next idea?

 

How about if we work with the idea of being accepting instead?  I grant you that many people also have a very strong attachment to being “accepting”.  However, I think it is less strong than the one to being “loving”.  I have found that when you concentrate on the minutiae of people’s lives you can more readily help them see where they are not accepting, or in other words, in denial.  All you have to do is look at their pain.  The trick is getting them to look at it and accept it.

 

Helping people

I won’t get into all the foorah about helping people.  I know that you cannot force your help on anybody.  I know that if I go around “trying to help people” I am insulting them by telling them that they need help. 

 

All I will say is that it is natural to want to help someone when you see they are in pain.  All you can do is attempt to share what has helped you.  You just need to be accepting of the outcome of the attempt, whatever that outcome may be.

 

I have seen people become more loving by recognizing their lack of acceptance of the small things in their life.  These are people who identify themselves as loving people, and in their own way, they are.  However, they are in pain because of lack of acceptance.

 

The paradox

What is interesting is that many of us do not realize that when we are not accepting of others we are actually not accepting of ourselves.  Our post on September 10 discussed this idea at length.

 

We will summarize that post here, but please read that post for greater detail.  When we do not accept or like something in someone else it is because we do not like that same thing in ourself.  As we learn to like accept ourself we also learn to like and accept others.

 

Sometimes it happens the other way.  We lean to accept and like others and then learn to accept and like ourself.  It does not matter how we do it, as long as we learn acceptance.  This makes our life much happier.

 

For this reason I prefer to talk to people about the idea of accepting themself and their life the way it is.  In time, as they become more accepting, they also become more loving.

 

Homework

Here is your homework.  For the next thirty days make the conscious attempt to substitute the word “accept” or “acceptance” for the word “love”.

 

I recommend that you start by adjusting your thinking.  When you think the word “love”, rethink the thought using “accept”.  After a few days or a week, begin saying “accept” instead of love.  I hope that in a month you will see the power of this idea.

 

Please post a comment and let me know your experiences.

 

Well – that is all for another week.  I wish everyone a safe and happy weekend.

 

Until Monday –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Sacrifice Is Our Definition of Love

October 15, 2008

Have you ever noticed that we define love by the sacrifice involved?  Think about someone who says “After all I did for you!” in an angry manner.  Today we will explore how false self frequently defines love as sacrifice.

 

I did so much for you

Today’s post comes from an idea that was discussed at a meeting I attended last week.  As I thought about the idea I realized that it ties in very well with many of the aspects of false self and relationships that we looked at recently.

 

How many times have we heard a parent declare to a child how great a sacrifice they have made for the child?  Let’s take a look at what is going on here.  First, the parent is attempting to make the child feel guilty.  This comes from their false self.  The parent wants the child to be hurt because the parent is feeling hurt by the child.  Remember, only false self can be hurt.

 

The false self of the parent in our example wants to make the child obligated to the parent.  We have learned that true self sees everyone as equal.  The false self of the parent wants the child to be docile and subservient so it shames the child’s false self into being grateful to the parent.  The unfortunate thing here is that the child is still learning to train their false self and this situation has not encouraged the child to train the false self properly.

 

After the parent has dominated the child through the intimidation described above this type of interaction is described as love.  The child is taught that if they love their parents they must make sacrifices for them.

 

The damage is done

This is very damaging on several levels.  First, the child learns that love is not an equal relationship.  The parent has taught the child that in a love relationship one person must be dominant and the other must accept that dominance through sacrifice.  This idea is at the base of our earlier discussion of functional and non-functional families. 

 

Sometimes the child decides to become the dominant one in the relationship.  They learn to think that if someone loves them that person will do what they want.  At its base, this is encouraging the child to think that people exist to do what the child wants them to.

 

Other times the child learns that if they want people to like them then they must sacrifice for those people.  This can lead to very self destructive behavior as the child tries harder and harder to get people to like them.

 

Eventually what seems to happen is that the people who want to dominate the relationship find someone who wants to sacrifice in the relationship.  This is clearly false self behavior from both people.  As we have said before, false self always wants to put itself above or below other people.  In the relationship described here both people are behaving in this manner.  It is no wonder that we have so many problems with our relationships.

 

A range of healthiness

Most relationships are not totally dominated by one person while the other offers up their sacrifice.  Usually what happens is that one individual is dominant in a few areas of the relationship.  They balance this by sacrificing in other areas.

 

As the relationship evolves, the two individuals develop a somewhat balanced relationship.  The problem here is that the underlying dominant/sacrificial aspects have not been resolved.  They are only balanced.  Any stress on the relationship can cause this balance to collapse and threaten the relationship.  This type of relationship is relatively common and would be called moderately unhealthy.

 

A very unhealthy relationship would be one in which one person is extremely dominant and the other is totally sacrificial.  Although this might appear to be balanced what is really happening is very self destructive.

 

This self destruction is especially true for the person who is sacrificial.  They keep trying harder and harder by sacrificing more and more.  Eventually they become very self destructive and can give no more.  The dominant person does not realize that the other person can no longer give and the relationship ends.

 

A realistic picture?

Have I painted a realistic picture here?  Ask yourself what your idea of love is.  If it starts with doing for someone else then that idea of love involves sacrifice. 

 

How many of us have been upset when someone did not return the love we thought we were giving them?  Once again this is sacrifice.  We sacrifice ourselves and mistake it for love.  Then we are hurt when that sacrifice is not acknowledged and returned in a way we think is appropriate.

 

Unconditional love

Love is freely given because we choose to give it.  If we expect something in return then it is not love.  We love because it is what we want to do.  Love is unconditional.  When we expect something back then it is no longer unconditional.

 

Unconditional love is very hard for most of us.  We are so enmeshed in our false self ideas that we mistake many different things for unconditional love.  Here is one way that might help show the difference between the two.

 

Unconditional love feels good.  Many times we do not even recognize that we feel good.  Unconditional love is so natural that we just do it and do not recognize that we have done so.

 

Conditional love is always tinged with fear and uncertainty.  Many times we ask ourselves “if I love this person what will I get back?”  This is a sure sign of conditional love.

 

There is another aspect to unconditional love called acceptance.  Unfortunately we have run out of space for today.  That will have to be the subject of a future posting.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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We Choose Our Limitations

October 14, 2008

We Choose Our Limitations

 

Today we look at how we accept limitations into our life.  Limitations are something that false self chooses.  True self knows that there are no limitations.

 

A few maxims

“Argue for your limitations and they are yours.”  This is one of the greatest approaches to understanding limitations that I have ever found.  It comes from a book called “The Mystic Path to Cosmic Power” by Vernon Howard.

 

The central point of this idea for me has been that all of our limitations are self chosen.  We decided to have limitations.  Then, when someone tells us that we do not have to have limitations, we insist on maintaining those limitations.  We argue in favor of having limitations.  Therefore we have them.

 

“The sky is the limit – only if you want it to be.”  This saying was very common within the first spiritual study group I ever attended.  It is a variation on the old cliché “the sky is the limit.” 

 

It took me a little while to understand this concept.  I had always accepted that the cliché “the sky is the limit” was enough to strive for.  This was the accepted way of viewing that we had no limitations.  The new phrase “only if you want it to be” added an implication that I found it hard to get my mind around.

 

This new phrase implied that indeed there were no limits at all.  I was still struggling with the idea that I was creating my own limitations, let alone that the sky was the limit.  Now I had a new idea that said that there are no limitations.  It took a few years, but as I started to see my self imposed limitations I also started to see that there really are no limits.

 

Here are a few of the common self imposed limitations that I have seen.  Not all of us have all of these limitations, but these are some of the more common ones.

 

We think we are limited because of ethnicity

Once again this is not so.  Although the habitual ethnic and racial prejudices have been resurfacing in the last few years, we are still able to achieve a lot more than we once could.  Even in the darkest days of racial hatred there were always individuals who found a way to get themselves out of a situation that they did not desire and create something that suited them better.

 

This is by no means meant to condone racial, ethnic, gender, or sexual bias, hatred, or discrimination.  We are all created equal and must learn to accept each other the way we are despite our perceived differences.

 

The point is that those who have found a way to extricate themselves from a situation of hatred or discrimination realized that they had a choice.  They chose to change their life and kept working until they made that change.  These individuals should be held as inspirations to the rest of us who have not realized yet that we have the choice to change our life.

 

We think we are limited because of money

We have addressed this idea in two different posts.  The first was on July 16 when we were talking about illusions.  Our point there was that we frequently fall into the illusion that we must have a nebulous something before we can pursue our spiritual growth.

 

Another time that we looked at this idea was on September 17.  That day we talked about not dwelling on what we don’t have.  Being limited by money is just an illusion.  When we view money as a tool that we use to accomplish an objective, we find a way to acquire the money required by our objectives.

 

The point here is to not acquire money for the sake of the money itself.  We should determine our objectives and then acquire the money needed to accomplish those objectives.  Money for money’s sake is another false self illusion.

 

We think we are limited by our gender

Although there are a few remaining areas that gender is a determining factor, those are much fewer than they once were.  There are still many cultures that use gender as a determining factor, but even those cultures are coming under intense pressure to change those ideas.

 

Even in sports, gender is not the limiting factor it once was.  Although women do not compete side by side with males for the money, notoriety, and prestige in many sports, they still compete.  Most sports that were once exclusively male now have an outlet in which women participate.  They may not receive the same money and fame as the men in that sport, but they get to play the sport.  After all, aren’t sports supposed to be about the love of playing the game, not the money we are paid?

 

There are more examples

These are but a few of the common examples of self-imposed limitations.  There are many more where these came from.  The point is not to list all the examples.  Rather, we should be learning to see our own self-imposed limitations.  Then we need to learn our own technique to work past those limitations.

 

Am I past all my limitations?  Of course not.  Just as I have discussed my fears and attachments in the past, I still have many things to learn.  However, I have learned enough that I can start to share what I have learned with others.

 

Like with fears and attachments, I still occasionally smack my head on my wall of self limitations.    When that happens I pick myself up, dust myself off, and continue on my path.  As I continue on my path I attempt to learn from what has happened and attempt to keep from making the same mistake again.

 

That is all for today.  Please learn to stop insisting on having limitations.  You will be much happier without them.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Unique Vibration

October 13, 2008

A reader wrote me and asked about how our Creator can identify us.  The question was whether or not he could tell who we were from our bodies.  Today we look at that question.

 

Welcome back

This was another great weekend in the northeastern US.  The leaves are starting to turn, but many of the trees in this area do not seem to have very much color.  A lot of the leaves seem to be turning a dull brownish red which are falling off without achieving any brilliance.

 

Despite the lack of colorful foliage I managed to get out for some long walks, the weather is perfect for those long walks.  The coming weeks promises more of the same.  I hope each and everyone of you had a great weekend.  Here is today’s topic.

 

Can our Creator identify us by our physical bodies?

I received this question from a reader last week.  We have not talked about energy and vibration very much on this site.  We can do so if you, the readers, would like to know more about what I understand regarding these subjects.  Just post your comments or send me an email and I will do my best to explain what I know.

 

To answer today’s question I will give you the explanation that I received many years ago.  If anyone has other understandings please post them.

 

Use of pronouns

For simplicity I use the pronoun “he” when I refer to the Creator.  I do so because it is simpler to construct readable sentences.  Also, I do not think he cares which pronoun I use.  If you prefer to use another pronoun please feel free to insert the pronoun of your choosing.  I do not think he cares if you do that, either.

 

The creation of individuals

We start with the creation of individuals.  The only one capable of this is our Creator.  He takes a block of energy and balances it for use as individuals.  This type of energy is different than all other types of energies.  This specific balance allows for growth and learning, something that only individuals can do.

 

The large block of energy is then divided into smaller blocks that will become individuals.  Typically each large block becomes twelve individuals.  Each of the twelve blocks is then balanced to be different from the other eleven blocks.  Each block receives a unique balance that is different from all other individuals as well as the other eleven in that block.

Names

Once the individual blocks of energy have received their unique balances they are named.  The names come from the characteristics that our Creator used to balance the blocks of energy.  These names become the names of the individuals that are created.  Just like each individual has a unique energy vibration, they also have a unique name that reflects that vibration.  No two individuals have the same vibrational balance or name.

 

Each individual is unique in many ways

This means that every individual has a unique balance that keeps them separate from every other individual.  This unique balance also means that each individual remains unique and cannot blend or mix their base energy with another individual.  In effect this means that we are all snowflakes and remain unique.  Contrary to some beliefs, we cannot merge into one large soul because our energies cannot mix.

 

So far, everything we have looked at is being done non-physically.  We are so enmeshed in physicality that it is hard for us to imagine something so abstract.  Non-physicalness is the base from which all physicalness is formed.  Physicalness is a reflection of non-physicalness.  Unfortunately on this planet that reflection is not very accurate, but much of that reflection is there – just greatly distorted.

 

How is an individual identified?

Now to the original question – does our Creator recognize us by our body or our spirit?  The answer to that is our spirit, but our body is a reflection of our spirit.  Anything that is closely associated with our spirit is influenced by the base vibration of our spirit.  When we take a physical structure for a lifetime our base vibration of true self flows through that structure and much of what that structure is associated with.

 

For example, our Creator can tell who we are by looking at out body because it reflects our base vibration.  He can recognize who we are by looking at our handwriting.  Our handwriting carries the base vibration of true self.

 

The same can be said for a photograph of us, our voice, a recording of our voice, or a drawing we create.  These all carry our unique individual vibration that no other individual has.  There are many ways that our unique vibration becomes a part of how we express ourselves.

 

Our Creator may not be able to tell you the name of the individual on this planet that is associated with a particular body.  That is because we do not use the names that are associated with our true self.  Those names are unique and reflect each individual’s unique vibration.  How can one call a name like Peter or Mary unique and associated with an individual’s vibration?  He would be able to tell you who the individual is, but not necessarily what their false self is called.

 

Also, most of us can do most of these things that I have described.  When we choose to spend a lifetime on another planet these methods are taught to the kids in grammar school.  It is considered important to know who people are – whether you are dealing with them physically or non-physically.  The kids are taught to identify individuals by their vibration.   They learn to tell who someone is through their body, their handwriting, their voice, and many other ways.

 

Dogs and psychics

We are all familiar with how effective tracking dogs can be.  We usually attribute their ability to their highly developed sense of smell.  Let’s take an out of the box look at another explanation.  When the handlers give the dog a piece of clothing worn by the individual they want to find it carries a scent.  What if that scent also carries the vibration of the individual and the dogs track that vibration as well as the actual scent?

 

Psychic trackers might do the same thing when they are looking for someone.  Psychics always need a personal object when they track someone.  Maybe they are identifying the individual by their unique vibration and then tracking that individual.

 

That is all for today.  I would like to hear your ideas about this subject.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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