Keep Unraveling

January 30, 2009

This week we have talked in detail about baggage and attachments.  Today we take a last look at how important it is to keep unraveling our tapestry of attachments and letting go of our baggage.

 

Thankful Friday

As we always do on Friday we will give our thanks to those around us.  I want to thank my friend Judy for giving me the idea for the post yesterday.  I never know where the ideas will come from.  She came up with a really good one.

 

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If we are not unraveling we are knitting

Yesterday we visualized an interwoven tapestry of attachments.  We talked about how attachments get interconnected and woven into a tapestry.  We also stressed the importance of unraveling the tapestry.

 

The interesting thing is that if we are not unraveling the tapestry then we are knitting it.  In other words, until we learn to let go of our attachments and unravel the tapestry we are actually adding attachments.

 

This should seem logical.  All through our lifetime false self continues to build its false identity which is based on attachments.  Until we begin to see through the attachments we continue to add to the existing attachments.

 

Knitting and unraveling simultaneously

Another interesting phenomenon is that we can be both knitting and unraveling at the same time.  This occurs when we are just beginning to understand how to let go of attachments.  We may see some of our attachments in one area – like to possessions.  We have yet to see our attachments to people.

 

What happens is that we begin to unravel our tapestry where it concerns possessions.  But, we continue to create new attachments to the people who are in our life.  This is not a problem.  If you recognize that you are doing this congratulate yourself.  You have observed your behavior and now you can begin to change the behavior you have observed.  Remember – observation is always the first step towards any change.  Eventually you will unravel faster than you are knitting.  Just trust yourself.

 

How big is your tapestry?

I brought up this idea earlier this week.  Forgive me for repeating it, but I think it is important to end our discussion of baggage and attachments with it.

 

Have you ever noticed that many people get very unhappy as they get older?  That is because they are not unraveling their tapestry.  They have never learned just how devastating the interconnected attachments are.  Instead of unraveling their tapestry they have built a very large one.

 

It is never too late to learn true happiness by unraveling the tapestry.  How big is your tapestry?  Make a commitment to yourself that you will begin unraveling it right now.  Tell yourself that you no longer need the tapestry.  You have learned that happiness comes from your true self and the tapestry just gets in the way.

 

Have a great weekend!  Until Monday –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

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A Tapestry of Attachments

January 29, 2009

I was talking with my friend Judy yesterday.  She asked me about what I had been writing for this blog.  I told her about the last few posts about baggage and attachments.  I also talked about how attachments are interconnected with each other.  She said “that is a tapestry of attachments.”  Today we look at that tapestry.

 

The interconnected attachments

Let’s take a look at how attachments can get interconnected.  This can happen in many ways.  We will look at one of the more common of those ways – the personal relationship.

 

Let’s say you are dating someone that you really like and want to marry.  You have such a crush on this person that you have a favorite song, a favorite TV show, a favorite place for dinner.  For you, your experience in the relationship is as identified with these additional things as it is with the person you are dating.

 

As it happens with many relationships, things fall apart.  You have become very attached to the person you were dating.  It may take a long time to get over that attachment.  As you get over the attachment to the person you start to recognize that you no longer want to go to dinner at that favorite place you had during the relationship.  Also, you no longer enjoy the favorite song or the TV show.  Whenever they come on you switch to something else.

 

The favorite place for dinner may be a very good restaurant with outstanding food.  You can no longer enjoy the food because of the interconnected attachment between that restaurant and you former relationship.  Does that make sense?  Not being able to enjoy a good meal because of a relationship that did not work out!  Or a great piece of music or a good TV show?

 

Unraveling the tapestry

We have talked about the pain of attachments in many of our posts.  We have shown how we do not experience true happiness until we begin to release our attachments.  When we look at the interconnected relationship of our attachments we are really talking about unraveling a tapestry of interconnected attachments.

 

To use our example from today – we have a relationship that does not work out and causes us pain.  I have chosen a few possible interconnected attachments that we may have developed during the relationship.  Each of us will have a different group of interconnected attachments – and there will probably be more than three or four in that group.

 

The trick is to see that they are interconnected and that they are keeping us from fully enjoying our life.  The interconnected attachments are keeping us from experiencing true happiness.

 

As we work on releasing a single attachment we do not necessarily have to work on the other attachments to which it is connected.  All we have to do is recognize that the attachments are connected to each other.  As we work through one attachment we begin on another in the tapestry.

 

Keep unraveling

At first it may not seem that we are getting anywhere.  That is because in the beginning we have so many attachments and they are so interconnected that progress may be hard to discern.

 

I urge you to keep working on the attachments.  Eventually you will see that you are making progress.  You will begin to see your tapestry of attachments beginning to unravel.  You will begin to experience true happiness from true self and that will become your motivation to continue to unravel the tapestry.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

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