The Compass vs. False Self

September 9, 2008

Review

For the last few days we have been learning to use my compass.  This is a tool that has been very helpful to me over the years.  Today we will look at how the compass can help us to recognize false self behavior.

 

Are you ready?  Let’s go!

 

The compass is true self

What I have done with the compass is to substitute the way that true self looks at existence for the false self illusions.  When we are first created, long before we are able to take a physical lifetime, one of the first things true self learns is why we were created.

 

If you think about it, shouldn’t we know why we are created?  Shouldn’t that also be something simple and easy to understand?  I keep repeating this, but what could be more simple and easy to understand?

 

The reason that we exist is to learn and grow and share that learning and growth with each other.

 

The only rule is that we do not interfere with the free will of another individual because that interferes with their ability to learn and grow in the manner that they choose.

 

Our true self learned this concept almost as soon as we were created.  We have lived our entire existence based on this idea.  We have used this as our guide during our countless lifetimes on other planets.  We have used this during the time that we are nonphysical and are not physically present anywhere.

 

The only time we do not use this principle on which we were created is when we follow what passes for decisions made by our false self when we are on this planet.  As we have stated in many previous posts, this is because we have not properly trained false self to listen to the guidance of true self.

 

The compass vs. false self

For the past month we have taken a long look at false self.  We have attempted to understand why we have a false self, recognize some of the false self behaviors, and explain different kinds of false self attachments.  There is a common thread that runs through all false self behavior.  That thread is that we are not reading our compass.

 

At first it can be very difficult to live our lives by taking readings from our compass.  Many of the ideas and behaviors that we take for granted are diametrically opposed to the compass readings.

 

False self thinks that it has to look after itself first before it can take care of others.  This is true, but not necessarily in the way that false self thinks it is.  False self thinks that if it helps someone else it has to give up or lose something.  False self is convinced that if it shares something with someone else that means that it no longer has what it shared.

 

Think about this for a minute.  If our primary purpose is to learn and then share that learning, how can there be a finite amount of learning?  Isn’t there always something more to learn?  When false self is afraid of losing something when it shares what it has learned – all it is doing is believing in an illusion.

 

There is an infinite amount of knowledge to be gained and there is nothing that true self can lose when it shares that learning.  False self is the only one worried about loss when anything is shared.

 

So much for the learning and sharing part of reading compass.  Let’s look at the part of the reading that talks about not interfering with free will.

 

False self interferes with free will all of the time.  Let’s look at a few situations where it is easy to see this in action.

 

False self is fearful and wants to change a situation so that the fear is eliminated.  One common way of changing the situation is to demand that other people change their behavior.  We find this deliberate interference in everything from our personal relationships, to our justice system and even in international relations.

 

This happens in our personal relationships when our spouse does something that causes us fear.  It may be that our possessiveness is triggered when they talk to someone else.  Possessiveness is just a false self fear.  Even though our spouse may find the conversation very helpful, we demand that they do not talk to this person again.  Our false self behavior – fear – has caused us to interfere with the way our spouse is choosing to learn.

 

In our criminal justice system this happens when we continue to punish individuals who have committed a crime and are attempting to learn form their mistake.  I am not saying that people do not make mistakes.  Neither am I saying that there are many people who do not want to learn from their mistakes. 

 

My point is that there are many people who do the crime, do their time, and then are punished for the rest of their lives.  When we create a justice system that does not make the effort to truly rehabilitate those who want to rehabilitate themselves we are interfering with the free will of those individuals.

 

The same is true for international relations.  When one country decides that it is afraid of another country it usually decides to punish the other country.  The punishments can range from economic sanctions to pre-emptive war.

 

The dispute is usually between the leaders of those countries, not between the citizens who make up the populations of the country.  By punishing the citizens of a country because of a dislike of their leader we are interfering with their free will to live the way they chose.  Who knows, given enough time and free will they might even get rid of their leader and chose one that we like.

 

Multiple levels

We have just seen how we can apply our compass to false self based fear.  These examples looked at several levels from the personal to the international.  They all share the same root.

 

False self based fear is not the only way that we trigger interference with the free will of others.  It is just one of the more common ways.  One of the ways we can learn to use the compass is to use it to read our relationships with those around us as well as our thoughts about the situations around us.  Whenever the compass tells us that we are interfering with the free will of other individuals we have found a very good indication that we are engaging in false self behavior.

 

That’s all for today.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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True Self Sees Everyone as an Equal

August 12, 2008

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Now to the daily post.  Yesterday we talked about how and why false self creates attachments to people.  Today we look at how our true self relates to people.  Are you ready?  Let’s go!

 

True Self Does Not Attach to People

Our True Self has known since its creation that it did not need other individuals in order to simply exist.  It also knows that although help from other individuals is important, it does not need any particular individual for any help that it might require.

 

We all require occasional help to live our lives.  Also, we all help other individuals with their lives.  True self understands this and recognizes that attachments are not necessary.  True self knows that when we truly need help that any necessary help will be found.  True self does not need to attach itself to that help; it only needs to allow that assistance to happen.

 

False self is afraid to lose any help that might come its way.  Therefore it attaches to anyone who it thinks might help it.  Then it becomes afraid that the help might be withdrawn and attaches to the person perceived as providing help.  Frequently it will manipulate the perceived helper through blame, guilt, or shame.  The manipulation and the attachment spoil any possibility of a positive relationship.

 

True self knows we do not need to attach to anyone offering assistance.  We know that we can eventually resolve any situation, and that the appropriate assistance will always be available when we truly need it.  This inner strength and self confidence keep true self from needing attachments of any sort, especially to people.

 

True Self Treats Everyone as an Equal

Because true self has no fear of people and needs no attachments to them, we can treat each person we meet with the dignity and respect that they deserve.  True self looks at the true self in the people we meet during the course of a day. It knows that all individuals are children of the same Creator and are deserving of the same dignity and respect we want for ourselves.

 

True self does not look at and judge the false self which an individual is using for this lifetime.  True self always looks at and attempts to relate to the other true self that is operating the false self with which it is interacting physically.  As true self we do not allow the false self of another individual to cause us to lose our respect for their true self.

 

What we are describing here is the true meaning of treating everyone as an equal.  This is the way our true self relates to all other individuals.  This is how we want other individuals to relate to us, so we relate to them in the same manner.  Also, our true self does not care if the other individual does not return the same equality to us.

 

As true self we know that we cannot be diminished by any actual or perceived disrespect from someone else.  True self knows that we are doing just fine regardless of what anyone else thinks or feels about us.  Remember – it is the false self that cares about what others think about it.

 

True Self Knows That We Can Learn From Anyone

Do you remember back when we said that the purpose of existence is to learn and grow and then to share that learning and growth with each other?  Well, here is the link if you need a refresher.  Because our true self knows this, it also knows that it can learn from any other individual, no matter their level of advancement.

 

As true self we know that anyone we encounter during our day can teach us something, whether they know it or not.  True self knows that we have experience from which any individual we encounter might learn.

 

This is a very humbling realization.  We can all learn and grow from each other.  Therefore as true self we see all individuals as being equal.  We are merely attempting to learn from each other and help each other to grow.

 

This is the great engine that moves all of Creation forward.  All individuals treat each other with dignity and respect.  The primary purpose of each individual is to learn what they can and then share that learning with those around them.

 

The False Self Gets in the Way

As we have shown numerous times, false self is afraid of everything.  It does not like this idea of treating everyone as an equal.  It does not like the idea of being able to learn from anyone it encounters during the day.  After all, the false self  has to prove it is someone.  How can it do that when it has to accept that someone else might be right?

 

Any one who has read the writings on this site for awhile will recognize that we almost always come back to observing the false self behavior.  This is always the first step towards overcoming that behavior and learning to find our true happiness.  Today is no different.  Observe how our false self approaches other people during the course of your day.  Does it treat them as equals?  Does it think it can learn from them?

 

When we are observing this behavior we are being our true self.  True self knows that we must monitor our false self behavior so that we can train it to listen to true self.

 

True self wants to treat each individual with dignity and respect.  When we do this we are being our true self, not our false self.  True self knows that we exist to learn and share that learning.  When we are doing this we are being our true self.

 

The more we practice being our true self the more we gradually train our false self out of its fears and attachments.  As we learn to be our true self, the true happiness we seek comes closer.  There is no longer any room for the unhappiness that comes from our false self.

 

I keep imploring you to learn these methods of finding your true happiness.  Yes, it is a bit of work.  However it is important that we do the work.  I want nothing more than for each of you to find your true happiness much sooner that I found mine.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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