It looks like we might have email distribution of the daily post working properly again. I confess that I might have accidentally turned it off. I definitely did change the format without realizing that I had done so.
I write the blog a day or two before it is posted. Therefore the updates on the distribution may be slightly out of date. On Wednesday morning I received the email containing that day’s post. However it was in a “teaser” form. I had unknowingly changed the distribution to be in this format. I have since changed that back and hopefully today’s email distribution will be of the entire post.
If you missed any posts during the email distribution outage please go back and read those posts. The discussion regarding true self/false self builds on the information from previous posts. By not reading the other posts you might miss part of the entire explanation.
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Finally – there may still be a problem with the RSS feed being updated. Right now the RSS feed seems to be about a week out of date and I cannot find a way to force it to update. I am asking anyone else who is having any problems with the RSS feed to contact me so that I can research them.
Enough of that. Let’s go to today’s post!
Life Isn’t Fair
I know – we all heard that as kids. Did we agree with this idea then? Do we agree with it now?
We have probably never agreed with the idea that life isn’t fair. Why? Where do we get the idea that life should be fair?
Hhmmm… We have been talking about false self for almost two weeks. Could it be that false self wants life to be fair?
We have talked about false self being the source of our unhappiness. Doesn’t some form of unhappiness usually precede our insistence that life should be fair? It would be a good guess that false self wants life to be fair. But why?
When Life is Fair it is Easy
Remember that false self is composed mainly of fears and attachments. It does not really like to think hard about things. It wants things to be simple and readily apparent. In our post about life being a journey we looked at the idea that false self wants life to be a formula. A formula is easy to understand and follow.
In much the same way false self wants life to be fair. It thinks that there is a formula that will bring fairness. For example, “if I am fair to people then they should be fair to me.” Another example would be “if I do a good job at work then I will keep my job and get raises.”
When false self follows some formula that it thinks will bring about fairness it is always disappointed. It does a good job but loses its job anyway. It is “fair” to other people but perceives that other people are not fair to it. Then it takes these upsets personally and the downward spiral of happiness continues.
So if life is not fair, what is it?
Life Is What It Is
At first glance this seems to be either a flippant or simplistic answer. Maybe it is both. However, let’s take a look at it and attempt to understand it.
We will start with our post about why we exist. I will summarize that post but it would be helpful if you read the entire post.
The reason that we exist is to learn and grow and then to share that learning and growth with those around us.
Believe it or not, that is all there is to life. We touch upon that idea in greater detail in other posts on this blog so we will not spend much time on it right now. When we start at the beginning many things become much easier to understand.
OK – so what does that have to do with “life is what it is?”
I was just getting to that. If our main purpose in life is to learn, then if we live strictly by a formula then we drastically limit our opportunities to learn. What do we learn if we perform tasks A, B, and C and always get result D?
If life is fair then all we have to do is be fair to other people and they will be fair to us. This takes all the learning out because we think we know what it means to be fair. “You don’t have to tell me what fair is, I already know that.” Does that sound familiar? That does not sound like a very open minded person, does it?
How can we learn when we are not open minded? We can’t. When we are living life in a close minded way we are attempting to prove the truth of what we think we already know. Once again, where is the new learning in that?
When we start to throw fears, attachments, self validation, and all those other marvelous characteristics of the false self into the mix, we see how we are closing off our learning opportunities. We are trying to make life what we want it to be, and that never brings happiness.
It is far more satisfying to allow life to be what it is, approach it with the open mindedness of true self, and learn from the experience. Our true self knows that life is whatever it is. We know that true self wants to learn from whatever happens in life and therefore does not attempt to make it “fair” or otherwise fit into a formula.
When we recognize false self wanting life to be fair we must remember that once again we are true self observing the behavior of false self. Tell false self that life isn’t fair – it is what it is. Tell false self that true self knows what to do with this nebulous understanding of life. Eventually false self will quiet down and start to trust true self. Now we are on the path to finding our true happiness.
That’s all for today! Please stop banging your head against the wall by trying to make life into something it cannot be. As always, I want you to become at peace with yourself much sooner than I did.
Until tomorrow –
Es kava turen hai
We work towards an identical goal.
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