I Laugh at Myself Because I Like Myself

December 24, 2008

The theme for this week seems to have turned into learning how to like and laugh at ourselves.  Today I will offer one more idea on that subject.  It may seem counterintuitive but trust me – it is very logical and at the same time very powerful.

 

The power of laughing at ourselves

On Monday we talked about the importance of laughing at ourselves.  Laughing at ourselves helps us to remain objective and observant of ourselves.  Laughing at ourselves keeps us from taking ourselves too seriously.

 

Many times we don’t recognize the power of laughing at ourselves.  First, when we are being objective we are also being in the moment.  When we observe the absurdities of our false self and are able to laugh at them we begin to gain control of our life.  True self is saying that we have had enough of the false self silliness and begins to undermine the false self tyranny by pointing out the absurdities.

 

The other powerful aspect of laughing at ourselves is that when we laugh at ourselves we give others the permission to laugh at us as well.  We have talked about the power of vulnerability.

 

When we are vulnerable we are saying to people that we trust them not to take advantage of our vulnerability.  Most of the time people respond favorably to our vulnerability.  It also says to them that we trust them, and in return they tend to trust us back.

 

When we laugh at ourselves we are admitting a flaw.  This empowers others to laugh at themselves and admit their flaws.  This can be very healthy for all concerned.

 

Liking myself

Yesterday we talked about liking ourselves.  Similarly to laughing at ourselves, liking ourselves is also very powerful.  When we like ourselves we become at peace with ourselves.  When we truly understand this kind of peace we begin to finally make use of the tremendous power that we all have.

 

When we have learned to truly be at peace with ourselves in this manner there is nothing that can cause us to dislike ourselves any more.  At this point we have finally learned to build our lives on the bedrock that is our true self.

 

Nothing can shake us from this bedrock once we have truly found it.  That is why a little bit of laughing at ourselves never does any damage.  When you are building on the strength that true self has gained through millions of lifetimes, how can a little laughing during one lifetime threaten that strength?

 

I can laugh at myself because I like myself.  Also, when I observe my own absurd behavior I must laugh at it.  That is my first line of defense that keeps me sane and objective.  When I truly like myself I must also be able to laugh at myself.

 

For many of us today is Christmas Eve and the beginning of the traditional holiday.  I wish you a safe and happy holiday season – whatever holiday you do or do not celebrate.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

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Let’s not Take Ourselves too Seriously

December 22, 2008

Frequently we get caught in the drama of our daily lives and forget to be objective.  We neglect the healthy habit of taking a step back and laughing at ourselves for being so serious and earnest.  Today we explore this curious habit.

 

Welcome back

I hope everyone had a safe and happy weekend.  Here in the northeast US winter is really showing its cards early.  We had snow and ice several times in the last few days.  The forecast lows are for ten degrees Fahrenheit for the next two nights.  If we don’t have a white Christmas it won’t be because we didn’t try.

 

If we can’t laugh at ourselves

I used to be a very serious person.  I was convinced that life was serious business.  I believed that I had to conduct myself accordingly.  In reality, I was actually much more grim and gloomy than I was serious.  I was also very unhappy.

 

Eventually I learned to lighten up.  It took a few years, but once I learned how to admit my failures to myself, I realized how absurd I had been.  I started to learn how to look back at my previous behavior and laugh at how silly I had been.  I realized the grim and gloomy attitude was a very silly way to act.

 

As I became accustomed to looking back and laughing at myself I gradually realized the importance and power of that behavior.  It became very clear that when we cannot laugh at ourselves we are taking ourselves – and life – far too seriously.  This improved my mental health tremendously.

 

Don’t take the holidays too seriously

We all get caught up in the activities related to the holidays this time of year.  We all get busy doing a lot of things that we don’t do at other times of the year.  We also get very concerned that everything will be “perfect” so that everyone around us will have a “perfect” holiday.

 

Our culture is replete with movies and TV shows about holiday plans that go awry.  Most of these are funny because the characters get caught up in their false self and loose their sense of perspective.

 

We all have experiences of family members who loose their sense of perspective during the holidays.  Maybe it is the uncle who cannot be pried away from the football games on TV.  Maybe it is the great aunt who makes the same dull and boring pastry every year.  Or maybe it is the group of relatives that cannot help but argue every time they gather for the holidays.

 

We have a choice of how to handle these “problems”.  We can get upset that things are not going smoothly.  We can also stand back and laugh at the absurd behavior.  We do not have to laugh in the faces of our relatives, but we can internally recognize how ridiculous everyone is behaving.  We can have an internal chuckle that keeps us sane and in the moment.

 

For your sanity, during the next two weeks, I implore you to stop yourself every hour or so.  Take a look around you.  Observe the situation around you.  Observe your thoughts.  Take a step back and laugh at yourself and those around you.  I assure you that if you do not find something to laugh at then you are taking the holidays far too seriously.

 

That is all for today.  Enjoy the holidays!

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

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