Possessions vs. False Self

August 18, 2008

Welcome Back

Welcome back to our daily post.  I hope everyone had a great weekend.  The weather in this part of the world was fantastic this weekend.  On Saturday I helped a friend setup a couple of computers.  This allowed me to travel the back roads through some absolutely beautiful farmland that is just coming into a bountiful harvest season.

 

Are you ready to learn about a sensible approach to our possessions?  Let’s go!

 

False Self Attaches to Possessions

In an earlier post we looked at the idea that false self creates attachments to possessions.  Later we looked at how true self lets go of attachments to everything.  That post specifically looked at attachments to people, but all attachments are painful and true self avoids all attachments.

 

So, false self can be recognized when we notice an attachment to possessions or physical objects in general.  True self is happy all by itself and needs no attachments to possessions.  This begs the question “What is the best attitude towards possessions?”

 

What is the best way to view possessions?

In order to properly answer that question we need to look at the reason that we exist.  We have heard this several times on this site, but it always bears repeating:

 

The reason that we exist is to learn and grow and to share that learning and growth with each other.

 

That is all there is to life.  Our Creator gives us existence so that we can learn and then share that learning with each other.  As we learn and grow we use objects that our brothers and sisters have created while they were doing their own learning and growth.

 

Let’s take a closer look at how we bring objects into our lives.  How do we acquire stuff?  Let’s start with money.  We usually acquire money by trading our time and skills to someone.  They have a job that needs to be done and we have the time and skills to perform that job.  Some of us actually get money when we sell a product that we produce.  Some of us own a company that sells products and we get money from that company.  Some of us have invested money in items that give us money back for the money we have invested.

 

One way or another, the usual first step to acquiring possessions is to use money.  Now that we have some money what do we buy?  That is an interesting question.  To answer that we need to look at why we buy things.

 

We will address attachments to jobs and money at a later time.  For now please recognize that we create many attachments to both jobs and money.  Money should be viewed strictly as any other possession.  Attachments to jobs are part of our attachments to our identity.  We will discuss this later this week.

 

Why do we buy things?

Many of us spend a lot of our money to buy things because we are driven by our attachments.  We all know people who are driven to purchase things because of attachments.  This can be anything they buy from a house, to clothing, to a car.  They buy something in order to make themselves happy yet they remain unhappy.  Haven’t all of us done the same thing?

 

Yes – we need housing, clothing, and transportation.  Attachments cause us to buy the wrong house or pay the wrong price.  Attachments cause us to buy thirty pairs of shoes when we may only need eight or ten pair.  Attachments cause us to but the expensive sports car when the standard mass produced two door coupe is all we really need and can afford.

 

Hopefully we are getting a feel for the difference between buying something that we need and buying something that we want.  We need shoes.  We want thirty pairs, so we buy them.  We need a car.  We want the expensive sports car, so we buy it.

 

Possessions are tools

The best way to look at possessions and material stuff is to see them as tools.  We need a car.  We ask ourselves how we plan to use that car.  If we are in construction and need to transport materials we will need a pickup truck.  If we have a family then we may need a van or a sedan.  The best way to buy something is to look at how we will use that object and then we buy the best tool for the anticipated use.

 

And – we do not create attachments.  When we create an attachment to a possession or any other material thing we cease viewing it as a tool and start to see it as part of our self.  It is actually a part of false self because we know that true self needs no attachments.

 

Once we create the attachment then anything that happens to the possession happens to false self.  We come out of a store and find that someone scratched our car.  We take it personally as if someone had scratched us.  We get upset and have to tell everyone we meet during the rest of the day how much we were wronged because someone scratched our car.

 

If we had no attachment to the car, we would calmly realize that this is only a minor scratch and would not let it ruin our day.  After all, shouldn’t we have more important things to be doing than complaining to everyone we meet about a scratch in our car?

 

Let go of possessions

As we heard earlier, money is simply another possession.  Therefore we need to view it as another tool that we use for our learning and growth.  Because money as at the root of so much of our thinking we tend to create many attachments to it.  The more we can let go of those attachments the more clearly we will be able to see the proper role of money in our life.

 

A much happier way to deal with possessions and material things is to view them as tools.  We pick them up when we need them and we put them down when we are finished.  They have nothing to do with our true self.  Possessions and material objects are things that true self uses as it learns and grows.

 

That’s all for today.  Tomorrow we will take a closer look at how true self views possessions and material objects.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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False Self Wants Life to be Fair

August 14, 2008

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It looks like we might have email distribution of the daily post working properly again.  I confess that I might have accidentally turned it off.  I definitely did change the format without realizing that I had done so.

 

I write the blog a day or two before it is posted.  Therefore the updates on the distribution may be slightly out of date.  On Wednesday morning I received the email containing that day’s post.  However it was in a “teaser” form.  I had unknowingly changed the distribution to be in this format.  I have since changed that back and hopefully today’s email distribution will be of the entire post.

 

If you missed any posts during the email distribution outage please go back and read those posts.  The discussion regarding true self/false self builds on the information from previous posts.  By not reading the other posts you might miss part of the entire explanation.

 

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Enough of that.  Let’s go to today’s post!

 

Life Isn’t Fair

I know – we all heard that as kids.  Did we agree with this idea then?  Do we agree with it now?

 

We have probably never agreed with the idea that life isn’t fair.  Why?  Where do we get the idea that life should be fair?

 

Hhmmm…  We have been talking about false self for almost two weeks.  Could it be that false self wants life to be fair?

 

We have talked about false self being the source of our unhappiness.  Doesn’t some form of unhappiness usually precede our insistence that life should be fair?  It would be a good guess that false self wants life to be fair.  But why?

 

When Life is Fair it is Easy

Remember that false self is composed mainly of fears and attachments.  It does not really like to think hard about things.  It wants things to be simple and readily apparent.  In our post about life being a journey we looked at the idea that false self wants life to be a formula.  A formula is easy to understand and follow.

 

In much the same way false self wants life to be fair.  It thinks that there is a formula that will bring fairness.  For example, “if I am fair to people then they should be fair to me.”  Another example would be “if I do a good job at work then I will keep my job and get raises.”

 

When false self follows some formula that it thinks will bring about fairness it is always disappointed.   It does a good job but loses its job anyway.  It is “fair” to other people but perceives that other people are not fair to it.  Then it takes these upsets personally and the downward spiral of happiness continues.

 

So if life is not fair, what is it?

 

Life Is What It Is

At first glance this seems to be either a flippant or simplistic answer.  Maybe it is both.  However, let’s take a look at it and attempt to understand it.

 

We will start with our post about why we exist.  I will summarize that post but it would be helpful if you read the entire post.

 

The reason that we exist is to learn and grow and then to share that learning and growth with those around us.

 

Believe it or not, that is all there is to life.  We touch upon that idea in greater detail in other posts on this blog so we will not spend much time on it right now.  When we start at the beginning many things become much easier to understand.

 

OK – so what does that have to do with “life is what it is?”

 

I was just getting to that.  If our main purpose in life is to learn, then if we live strictly by a formula then we drastically limit our opportunities to learn.  What do we learn if we perform tasks A, B, and C and always get result D?

 

If life is fair then all we have to do is be fair to other people and they will be fair to us.  This takes all the learning out because we think we know what it means to be fair.  “You don’t have to tell me what fair is, I already know that.”  Does that sound familiar?  That does not sound like a very open minded person, does it?

 

How can we learn when we are not open minded? We can’t.  When we are living life in a close minded way we are attempting to prove the truth of what we think we already know.  Once again, where is the new learning in that?

When we start to throw fears, attachments, self validation, and all those other marvelous characteristics of the false self into the mix, we see how we are closing off our learning opportunities.  We are trying to make life what we want it to be, and that never brings happiness.

 

It is far more satisfying to allow life to be what it is, approach it with the open mindedness of true self, and learn from the experience.  Our true self knows that life is whatever it is.  We know that true self wants to learn from whatever happens in life and therefore does not attempt to make it “fair” or otherwise fit into a formula.

 

When we recognize false self wanting life to be fair we must remember that once again we are true self observing the behavior of false self.  Tell false self that life isn’t fair – it is what it is.  Tell false self that true self knows what to do with this nebulous understanding of life.  Eventually false self will quiet down and start to trust true self.  Now we are on the path to finding our true happiness.

 

That’s all for today!  Please stop banging your head against the wall by trying to make life into something it cannot be.  As always, I want you to become at peace with yourself much sooner than I did.

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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More False Self Attachments to People

August 13, 2008

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Fears and Attachments Are Interconnected

As we have heard about the true self and false for the last week or so, I hope you have seen that the false self fears and attachments are closely interconnected.  Almost every time that we looked at one we have heard about the other.  I want you to really start to feel just how interconnected these two things are.  The better you understand the interconnection the sooner you will become adept at untangling them.

 

When we first start observing our behavior we usually only see the fears.  We are afraid of our boss, our spouse, the police, and so on.  We start to deal with the fears but it may take awhile to understand the underlying attachment that caused the fearful behavior.  The paradox is that the attachment is also based on a fear.  I have had a fun time pulling apart my fears and attachments.  Possibly some of that experience might help you.

 

An Example

Let’s take an example of a fear that many of us have.  We will pull it apart and look at the underlying attachment and related fears.

 

The example that we will use is a fear of our spouse.  The specific fear that we will look at is our fear that they may hurt us if they no longer like us.  Let’s step through this from the beginning:

 

  1. Starting with the base fear of false self, we find that false self knows that it is not supposed to be alone.  It knows that it should have guidance and direction but has been trained out of looking to our true self for that direction.  When it finds someone, in this example our spouse, who accepts it that fear is somewhat assuaged.
  2. Now that the fear is somewhat assuaged, false self wants to keep it that way.  It is much happier if it does not have to look at fears.  To keep the fear in check the false self creates an attachment to our spouse.  It hopes that by keeping that person around it will not have to look at the fear.
  3. Now that the attachment is in place false self develops a new fear.  That is the fear of losing or upsetting our spouse.  Remember, the attachment is supposed to enable our spouse to assuage the underlying fear of being alone.  Now we have a fear of losing our spouse.  Our actions are based on this fear, but stem from what is mentioned in points one and two.

 

In summary: false self is fearful because it knows that it is not supposed to be alone and has not been properly trained.  This fear causes it to attach to its spouse.  That attachment in turn causes fear of losing the spouse.

 

This appears to be somewhat complicated.  When we start to look at our unhappiness it is hard enough to direct that attention to ourselves.  It is much easier to blame external situations for our unhappiness.

 

The Result

Our spouse decides that they no longer want to be with us.  Do we ask “could it be all the odd behavior we exhibited because of the attachment?”  No.  We blame it on the spouse because they have hurt us.  If we are hurt it has to be because of someone else now, doesn’t it?

 

You can see how it can take awhile to start to work through the fears and attachments.  The first step, as always, is accepting that we are the source of our unhappiness.  Then we must begin to honestly observe our behavior.

 

Gradually we will see that our spouse did not hurt us.  We acted out of a fear that came from our attachment to our spouse.  Our spouse did not reject us.  They rejected our behavior.  They probably gave us many chances to change that behavior.  After multiple chances it became apparent that we were more interested in our fear and its underlying attachment than relating to our spouse in a reasonable manner.

 

Our spouse did not understand all this.  They just saw our inability to control our behavior and rejected the behavior.  How many of us have been in more than one relationship that turned out like this?  I know that I have.

 

In reality, as we begin to understand our fears and attachments they are interrelated with other fears and attachments.  Sometimes it helps to follow one fear and its attachments to its roots.  Sometimes it is better to look at the attachments and then the fears. 

 

We can see how difficult it can become to start to pull apart our fears and attachments.  Please do not be concerned.  We all learn to do it in our own ways.  My method may help you and it might not.  It does not matter.

 

What matters is that you find your own way to resolve your fears and attachments.  As you do that you will start to notice that you are becoming a much happier person.

 

 

 

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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True Self Sees Everyone as an Equal

August 12, 2008

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Now to the daily post.  Yesterday we talked about how and why false self creates attachments to people.  Today we look at how our true self relates to people.  Are you ready?  Let’s go!

 

True Self Does Not Attach to People

Our True Self has known since its creation that it did not need other individuals in order to simply exist.  It also knows that although help from other individuals is important, it does not need any particular individual for any help that it might require.

 

We all require occasional help to live our lives.  Also, we all help other individuals with their lives.  True self understands this and recognizes that attachments are not necessary.  True self knows that when we truly need help that any necessary help will be found.  True self does not need to attach itself to that help; it only needs to allow that assistance to happen.

 

False self is afraid to lose any help that might come its way.  Therefore it attaches to anyone who it thinks might help it.  Then it becomes afraid that the help might be withdrawn and attaches to the person perceived as providing help.  Frequently it will manipulate the perceived helper through blame, guilt, or shame.  The manipulation and the attachment spoil any possibility of a positive relationship.

 

True self knows we do not need to attach to anyone offering assistance.  We know that we can eventually resolve any situation, and that the appropriate assistance will always be available when we truly need it.  This inner strength and self confidence keep true self from needing attachments of any sort, especially to people.

 

True Self Treats Everyone as an Equal

Because true self has no fear of people and needs no attachments to them, we can treat each person we meet with the dignity and respect that they deserve.  True self looks at the true self in the people we meet during the course of a day. It knows that all individuals are children of the same Creator and are deserving of the same dignity and respect we want for ourselves.

 

True self does not look at and judge the false self which an individual is using for this lifetime.  True self always looks at and attempts to relate to the other true self that is operating the false self with which it is interacting physically.  As true self we do not allow the false self of another individual to cause us to lose our respect for their true self.

 

What we are describing here is the true meaning of treating everyone as an equal.  This is the way our true self relates to all other individuals.  This is how we want other individuals to relate to us, so we relate to them in the same manner.  Also, our true self does not care if the other individual does not return the same equality to us.

 

As true self we know that we cannot be diminished by any actual or perceived disrespect from someone else.  True self knows that we are doing just fine regardless of what anyone else thinks or feels about us.  Remember – it is the false self that cares about what others think about it.

 

True Self Knows That We Can Learn From Anyone

Do you remember back when we said that the purpose of existence is to learn and grow and then to share that learning and growth with each other?  Well, here is the link if you need a refresher.  Because our true self knows this, it also knows that it can learn from any other individual, no matter their level of advancement.

 

As true self we know that anyone we encounter during our day can teach us something, whether they know it or not.  True self knows that we have experience from which any individual we encounter might learn.

 

This is a very humbling realization.  We can all learn and grow from each other.  Therefore as true self we see all individuals as being equal.  We are merely attempting to learn from each other and help each other to grow.

 

This is the great engine that moves all of Creation forward.  All individuals treat each other with dignity and respect.  The primary purpose of each individual is to learn what they can and then share that learning with those around them.

 

The False Self Gets in the Way

As we have shown numerous times, false self is afraid of everything.  It does not like this idea of treating everyone as an equal.  It does not like the idea of being able to learn from anyone it encounters during the day.  After all, the false self  has to prove it is someone.  How can it do that when it has to accept that someone else might be right?

 

Any one who has read the writings on this site for awhile will recognize that we almost always come back to observing the false self behavior.  This is always the first step towards overcoming that behavior and learning to find our true happiness.  Today is no different.  Observe how our false self approaches other people during the course of your day.  Does it treat them as equals?  Does it think it can learn from them?

 

When we are observing this behavior we are being our true self.  True self knows that we must monitor our false self behavior so that we can train it to listen to true self.

 

True self wants to treat each individual with dignity and respect.  When we do this we are being our true self, not our false self.  True self knows that we exist to learn and share that learning.  When we are doing this we are being our true self.

 

The more we practice being our true self the more we gradually train our false self out of its fears and attachments.  As we learn to be our true self, the true happiness we seek comes closer.  There is no longer any room for the unhappiness that comes from our false self.

 

I keep imploring you to learn these methods of finding your true happiness.  Yes, it is a bit of work.  However it is important that we do the work.  I want nothing more than for each of you to find your true happiness much sooner that I found mine.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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I Have Met the Enemy and It Is Me

July 28, 2008

Welcome Back
I trust everyone had a great weekend. Today’s post is inspired by an old cartoon strip character that was in many daily papers once upon a time. The cartoon was called Pogo and we believe that he was the one who said “We have met the enemy and it is us.” Hopefully our readers will correct us if we are mistaken.

This post is similar in theme to the post last Friday that dealt with the holes we encounter on our spiritual path. At that time we looked at the idea of cleaning up the messes that we create and eventually learning how to avoid making the messes in the first place.

This post will explore the idea that we create more problems for ourselves than anyone else can. As we realize this, we learn that we can also be our own best friend. It is only a matter of self acceptance.

As Crystal Children, Indigo Children, and Star Children we can be great examples when we accept ourselves and take full responsibility for our lives.

I Have Met the Enemy
A few years ago as we were starting to recognize that we were gradually learning to avoid holes. We had taken a little bit of time to reflect where we had been when we started on our path. We also attempted to accept our then current level of understanding and recognize that we had much more path to travel.

We had reached a temporary plateau from which we could look back at where we had started, what we had learned, and make a few plans about where we wanted to go next. As we looked back at our path we realized that we had created all of the problems that we had to eventually fix.

As we came to this realization we were once again struck by another blinding flash of insight. Because we had created these problems we were our own worst enemy. That is when we met the enemy.

No One Can Create More Obstacles Than We Can
So there we were, looking at our most recent brilliant thought. We said to ourselves, OK – what does this mean? As we explored the idea, we realized that we had gotten in our own way more frequently and in a manner far more detrimental than anyone else ever could.

In other words, if someone had deliberately tried to get in our way for the last twenty years, they could not have damaged us more than what we had already done to ourselves. This was an interesting thought, and deep down inside we knew that it was true. To use the idea from our last post, no one could have made us jump into all those holes even if they tried. We jumped into the holes because wanted to do so.

It Is Me
At first we were a bit embarrassed about the fact we had caused ourself so many problems. We dutifully administered ourself a few dope slaps. Once we finished with self recriminations we went back to thinking about this insight.

First, we realized how important this insight truly was. We saw that when we finally take responsibility for everything that happens in our life, then we are no longer allowing any external situation to affect us. Isn’t this what we talked about a few weeks ago when we were talking about finding our happiness by looking inside?

Next, we started to feel much more empowered about our life. We realized that by saying that no one had any power over us we were in fact taking control of our lives. We saw that we were beginning to determine how we really lived our life. We could no longer blame any external circumstance for anything.

We were in control. If something happened it was a result of a decision that we had made. If the result was not what we wanted, we looked at how we had made the decision. By reexamining the decision we altered our behavior and eventually learned how to achieve what we wanted in the first place.

Use This to Empower Yourself
At first blush the idea of “I have met the enemy and it is me” does not seem to be very empowering. Once we think it through we realize that what it can mean is that we have gotten to a point where we can take responsibility for everything that happens within our lives.

We realize that when we have a “problem” it is something that we have created. If we created it then we can fix it. Eventually we see that no one can cause us more problems than we cause for ourselves. We deal with that by taking responsibility for everything that happens in our lives.

Once we commit to being ultimately responsible for our lives we take away any power we have been giving to any external situation. We empower ourselves by realizing that we have the ability to completely determine our destiny.

It Takes Time
Did all this happen to us immediately? Of course not. This was a series of thoughts that spanned several months. As we gained each insight it helped to clarify the previous insight. Once we put all the thoughts together into one coherent concept it still took several years to gradually accept it and start to adjust our behavior.

We learned not to be in a hurry. As long as we keep taking small steps we keep making progress. Eventually we take enough small steps to learn how to take the bigger steps. We each make our progress in our own way. Do not compare yourself to anyone but yourself. As long as you see that you are making small steps, do not worry. Everything will work out in its own time.

That is all for today. See you tomorrow!

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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The Main Event vs. the Side Show

July 24, 2008

 

We have looked at a number of different ideas on this site in the past few weeks.  In general we have heard about illusions during the last two weeks.  What we are trying to do is to help our readers feel when they are being caught up in illusions and help them to find their way out of those illusions.

 

Today we will address something that has come out of an email conversation that we have had recently with someone who reads the daily posts on this site.  The subject is one that all Crystal Children, Indigo Children, and Star Children eventual contemplate.  As always, we have encountered this issue ourselves and would like to share our perspective.

 

This conversation began when our reader sent us a link to a site that discussed beings from various galaxies.  It went on to explain the characteristics of those who come from each galaxy.  The site also names some important individuals in this hierarchy of galaxies.

 

Here is our response to the reader:

 

The Conversation

“We have a few comments in regards to the site recommendation that you sent.  These comments are by no means intended personally towards you.  You have only brought to the surface a topic that we have thought about and dealt with in differing ways for many years.

 

“We all look at the night sky and see countless stars.  Anyone with any semblance of an open mind realizes that there must be people out there, and that we are not the only populated planet.

 

“We have had the good fortune to be taught some of the basics about the way things actually operate out there among all those stars.  Those teachings in some ways correlate with some of the “channeled” ideas that other people talk about.  Most of them diverge greatly from what is commonly accepted here as the way things operate on other planets.

 

“Consequently we do not usually talk about what we know because it requires such tremendous explanation and it challenges so many “beliefs” that it becomes an exercise in futility.  Nor do we go about attempting to correct those whose ideas do not agree with what we understand.  In the end it makes no real difference.

 

“Why does it not make any real difference?

 

“As we have observed our growth over the last thirty years we have recognized that there is a “main event” and a “side show”.  The main event is being committed to looking inside ourselves to find our answers.  Once we realize that our power, confidence, and happiness come from within, we realize that this is the main event.  Everything else becomes the side show.

 

“What is the side show?

 

“When we get caught up in spending a great deal of time in ideas like those on the site you recommended, we are distracting ourselves from our true source of answers, which is True Self.  Placing our focus on channeling, ESP, UFOs, telepathy, soul travel, etc. is getting caught up in the side show, and is therefore another illusion.

 

“This illusion is just another variation of looking for our answers from an external source.  Whenever we look for an answer other than from within we are allowing ourselves to get caught in that illusion.

 

“We look at a site like the one you recommended and imagine the tremendous amount of time that was needed to create the site.  Then we wonder how much closer the site’s author would be towards finding their true happiness if they had taken the same amount of time to concentrate on understanding themselves.

 

“This is not a condemnation of the site or the author.  We are attempting to illustrate how easy it is to get caught up in the illusion and think we are doing something that is beneficial to ourselves, which in fact, amounts to nothing more than a side show.  We say this from the experience of wasting many years on such side shows.

 

“Now let’s imagine what would happen if a group of these people from another planet did suddenly appear here to help us?  What do you think they would say to us?  Would they tell us to continue to pursue our illusions?

 

“They would attempt to explain to us that we were caught in a series of illusions.  And we, of course, would tell them that they don’t understand how this world works. We would tell them that they will have to believe in our illusions before we will allow them to help us.

 

“In a way, isn’t that the conversation that we are attempting to start on this site?  Why worry about help from outside until we have learned how to properly control and help ourselves?”

 

 

Our Confession

With a few minor edits that was our response.  We spent many years pursuing the illusions.  We are embarrassed to say how many years we happily amused ourselves with the side show before we discovered the main event.

 

All we are attempting to do with any of the things we publish on this site is to help others to learn from our mistakes.  The reason we exist is to learn and grow and then to share that learning and growth with each other.  If we can share some of what we have learned in a way that it helps someone else from making the same mistake that we did, then the effort will be worth the trouble.

 

Tomorrow

Because tomorrow is Friday we will be giving our usual thanks to those who are helping to make this site successful.

 

Also, we will be looking at how to avoid falling in the holes in the road as we travel on our path to spirituality.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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What Is Spirituality?

July 23, 2008

 

This Week

We have thrown the term “spirituality” around a great deal in recent posts.  Today we will discuss what we mean by spirituality when we use the term on this site.  We have relegated illusion smashing to next week.  For the rest of this week we will be looking at some other subjects for discussion.

 

Current Usage

It is rather common these days to hear someone use the concepts of spirituality and religion interchangeably.  If we are spiritual we must be religious.  Consequently, if we are religious we must be spiritual.

 

To see the difference we will first discuss the concept of spirituality.

 

Spirituality Means to Live from Our Spirit

When we are learning to live a spiritual life we are learning to look inside of ourselves.  Inside of us we find our True Self or Spirit.  Some people also call this our soul.  Our spirit is the source of our happiness, self confidence, power, and guidance.  We discussed the aspect of looking inside for our happiness last week.

 

There are many authors, prophets, and great thinkers in general who have discussed the spirit at length.  We will not comment on those discussions here.  We will explain what we mean by spirit.

 

We each have a unique, indestructible, and everlasting part of ourselves.  This is what we call the spirit.  We have yet to discuss reincarnation at length on this site, but that conversation is coming soon.  Our spirit is the part of us that remembers what we have learned in all of our previous lifetimes.  It also remembers what we have learned in all of our nonphysical learning experiences.  In short it is the repository for all of our knowledge, wisdom, and experience.

 

When we enter a physical lifetime on this planet we are trained to forget any direct connection with that wisdom and experience.  We mentioned this when we talked about why the Crystal Children, the Indigo Children, and the Star Children forgot why they came here. 

 

We are trained to forget about our True Self (spirit).  We have a vague notion that something is not quite right.  We know that there should be more to us, but we cannot seem to find what it is.  Eventually many of us start a journey to discover our spirituality.

 

As we have discussed on this site, that journey is fraught with illusions.  Most of the people around us are caught up in illusions and cannot seem to admit that they are.  They exert pressures of guilt, shame, blame, etc. in an attempt to keep us from pursuing our journey.

 

Spirituality is About What Is Inside

As we begin our journey we usually have a number of misconceptions about what our spirituality is and what it will do for us once we find it.  One of the most common misconceptions is that we can become more spiritual by doing certain things.

 

Let’s make a list.  We can become more spiritual by:

 

Eating proper food

Doing yoga

Breathing properly

Being nice to people

Belonging to a particular group of people

Sleeping properly

Being more healthy

Learning about ESP, UFOs, crystals, etc.

 

What do all these things have in common?  These are all attempting to find spirituality by pursuing an external means.  If we are looking for our spirituality inside, how will eating the proper food help us?  Our spirit is not in our stomachs.  Through yoga we might learn to calm and quiet our minds, but without the proper understanding of how to use that mind we will not find our spirituality.

 

Finding our True Self is frequently a long and slow process.  It can take a bit of time to learn how to train our minds to see through the illusions that keep us from our goal.  It is far more easy to do the external things because that way we can prove that we are becoming more spiritual.

 

I have been a vegan for twenty years.  I must be more spiritual than I was when I still ate meat.  Maybe you are and maybe you are not more spiritual now.  If you want to be a vegan please do so.  Just don’t think that it will make you more spiritual.

 

I belong to this wonderful group of spiritual people.  I must be more spiritual now.  How do you know?  What makes these people more spiritual?  Why does belonging make you more spiritual?

 

Spirituality comes from living in harmony with our spirit (True Self).  That is inside of us.  Period.  The end.  Full stop.  ‘Nuff said.

 

Being Spiritual vs. Being Religious

As we have said so many times today, spirituality is about what is inside, not something we do about the outside.

 

With very few exceptions, religions are a bunch of outside rules, commandments, dogmas, etc. that tell us how to pursue our spirituality.  Religions (and other ideologies) concentrate on the rules of achieving our spirituality.  If we do not follow the rules then we are not spiritual.

 

As we have stated on this site, the reason that we exist is to learn and grow and to share that learning and growth with those around us.  The only rule is that we do not interfere with the free will of another individual because that keeps them from learning and growing in the manner that they choose.

 

Once we accept that there are external rules that can govern our internal spirituality we cease being spiritual.  When a religion tells us that its rules are more important than our pursuit of our spirituality it is telling us that their rules (which are external to our spirit) should control our spirit.  They are also taking away our free will.

 

This applies to any other ideology or methodology.  If someone tells you that they have a set of external rules that will help you find your spirituality then you must run, not walk to the nearest exit.  All that person wants to do is to control you.

 

Our spirit cannot be controlled by any external rules.

 

That is all for today.

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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