Fear and the Power of Love

January 6, 2009

Yesterday we heard about the power of fear.  We saw how we always cause what we fear.  In the past I have had several discussions about the power of love over the power of fear.  Today we will look more closely at this idea.

 

What is love?

We have looked at this idea in many different ways in some of our previous postings.  In summary, I prefer to use the term “unconditional love”.  This clearly defines that we are talking about love as being the acceptance of each other for who we are.  We accept each other with all of our faults as well as our good points.

 

In view of the above paragraph, I also view love as an action.  Many of us view love as an emotion.  I say that it is something that we do to each other, therefore it is an action.

 

Remember, yesterday we said that because fear was an emotion it was also thought energy.  In effect, when we compare love to fear we are comparing an action to an energy.  These are clearly two different things.

 

Our culture has helped to confuse the action with the emotions of caring for each other.  Our movies, books, TV shows, and songs tell us that love is the emotion we feel for each other.  My view is that we feel an emotion of caring for each other and that we take the action of love to demonstrate that caring. 

 

We have also talked about the idea that when we are accepting we are also in the moment.  When we are accepting of each other we are also exhibiting unconditional love.  When we love unconditionally we are also in the moment.

 

In the moment we have no fear

As we saw yesterday, when we are in the moment there is no room for fear.  We also just saw that unconditional love brings us into the moment.  I guess it could be said that love is more powerful than fear.

 

However, I think that making the comparison between unconditional love and fear is like comparing apples to oranges.  First of all, one is an action and the other is an emotional energy.  Second, when we are truly in the moment there is never any reason for fear.  Being in the moment automatically negates fear from our emotional makeup.

 

Which one is stronger?

I think it is a moot point.  Being in the moment makes all of the power of our true self readily available to us.  We cannot express unconditional love except when we are in the moment.  Being in the moment eliminates all chance for fear to adversely affect us.

 

The important point is to stay in the moment.  The question of fear being more powerful than love ceases to exist when we are in the moment.  That is because fear ceases to exist as in influence on us when we are in the moment.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

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We work towards an identical goal.

 

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We Always Cause What We Fear

January 5, 2009

The concept of fear was explained to me many years ago.  It has taken me a long time to start to get a good grasp of some of those explanations.  One of the more intriguing concepts is that we always cause what we fear.  Today we explore that idea.

 

Welcome back!

I trust that everyone had a safe and happy New Year holiday.  I took a break from the computer for a few days and got way behind in my email.  Oh well – you have to walk away from these things every once in awhile.

 

Relative strengths of energy

The way it was explained to me is that everything that exists is constructed of energy.  Energy also means vibration.  If it exists, it vibrates and it is made of energy.  Our scientists are beginning to understand this concept, especially as they are exploring quantum physics.

 

The question becomes what are the relative strengths of different energies?  Thought energy is the most powerful of all energies.  Every thing that exists began as a thought.  Then different energies were manipulated to create an object, a book, a movie, a painting.  Each of these started as a thought.

 

OK – thought energy manipulates all other energies so it is most powerful.  Of the different types of thought energy, emotional energy is the strongest.  When we are influenced by our emotional energy we tend to be unable to concentrate any other thoughts.  Emotional energy blocks out other thought energies.

 

Now – here is where it gets interesting.  Of the emotional energies, fear is the strongest.  Fear is the strongest of all energies.

 

Why we cause what we fear

Just like our emotional energy blocking out other thought energy, fear blocks out other emotions.  Think about a time when you were very frightened.  You were unable to think clearly.  You were simply reacting to the situation that caused the fear.  Also, you were unable to experience any other emotions.  Fear had totally paralyzed your ability to experience emotion.

 

Fear is runaway emotional thought energy.  Once we have given ourselves over to fear we cease to have the ability to control ourselves or the situation.  This is why we always cause what we fear.

 

The antidote

The only way to avoid fear is to remain in control of ourselves and have confidence in ourselves.  As we have discussed in many previous postings, being in the moment is the ultimate way to rid ourselves of fear.

 

By being in the moment we are staying in control of ourselves and nipping the fear in the bud.  With practice we can observe the fear as it begins to form into thoughts.  We decide not to grab the tiger’s tale – we let the fear go on by and stay happy and in control of ourselves.

 

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Insist on Having Fears and You Will Have Them

December 4, 2008

Today we look at the idea that we insist on having fears.  Many of us think that fear is normal.  However, as we look at our lives carefully we see that fear keeps us from being happy.  Why do we insist on having fears?

 

Remember the tiger?

We recently wrote about an analogy of a tiger that came from a book by Vernon Howard.  Today’s post is based on another analogy from that book.  The original analogy is:”argue for your limitations and they are yours.”  We will change that slightly as we look at fears.

 

Fear is something we learn

Several months ago as we were looking at the idea of false self we talked about fear.  We wrote a post about the idea that fear is a learned behavior.  The idea was that if we learn to be fearful we can also learn to overcome our fear.

 

How do we learn our fear?  As children we learn how to operate in our environment.  Our parents want to protect us.  Many of them think they are being helpful by teaching us to be afraid of things that can hurt us.

 

They teach us to be afraid of crossing the street so that we do not get run over by a car.  They teach us that there are a lot of “bad” people in the world so we need to be afraid of strangers.  They want us to be successful in life so they teach us to be afraid of failing in our school work.

 

We all have a different upbringing so we all have a different set of fears.  Some of them come from the good intentions of our parents, but some of them also come from us.  As we live our life we decide to develop fears that are based on our experience.  Either way, whether the source was our parents or ourselves, all fears are something we choose to accept into our life.

 

Why don’t we let go of our fears?

That is a very good question and one that I have puzzled over for many years.  As my understanding has evolved, I have come to several conclusions about this.

 

We see fear as normal

It seems to me that so many of us have so many fears that fear seems to be normal.  We alluded to this in a recent post.  When everyone else is afraid then it seems normal for us to be afraid as well.  We think this is the way we are supposed to live, so that is how we live.

 

Caution not fear

Many of us mistakenly think that fear is a protective device.  We think that if we are afraid of something it will make us more careful.  This was why our parents instilled fear in us.  If we were afraid of the flame on the stove then we would be more carful and not get burned.

 

The proper attitude is caution.  Caution does not imply fear, but many of us confuse the two.  When I drive on the expressway I am cautious of the cars around me, but I am not fearful.  It seems to be a fine distinction, and for many of us it is.  Hopefully in a future post we will explore that distinction.

 

Why be different?

Another aspect of why we choose to be fearful is we want to be like everyone else.  Once again, this is an idea that we have discussed in other posts on this site.  The basic idea is that false self does not want to be different.  By not being fearful of the things that the other false selves are fearful of, false self stands out.

 

When false self stands out as being different it is afraid.  Therefore it must behave in a manner that it can rationalize and justify for being different.  This is where we begin to get much of the irrational false self fear based behavior.

 

Confidence not bluster

When false self decides to show everyone that it is not afraid, all it usually does is puff itself up and talk in a boastful manner.  False self is putting on a false front about being fearful.  The more we talk about not being afraid, the more we are proving how afraid we really are.

 

True self does not have to prove that we are not afraid.  True self is confident, not boastful.  True self goes about our business without regard for fears.  True self just does not care about fear.  There is no reason to prove this – true self just does not care.

 

If we have to prove that we are not afraid then we are acting from false self.  This is part of the false self bluster.  True self just does not care, so will not even consider proving that it is not afraid.  The proof is in watching true self.  When you watch carefully you will see that there is no fear.  That is the proof.

 

Observe the fear

As with everything else on our spiritual path, it all starts with observation.  The most important step in learning to let go of our fears is to observe them.  We do not have to do anything about the fears at first.  We just have to watch them.

 

By observing the fears we get past the denial of them.  Many of us are in denial of many different fears.  As long as we are in denial, we cannot observe.  That is why we start with observation.  As we honestly observe our fears we begin to see how they are causing unhappiness.  Eventually we get tired of being unhappy and we decide to stop being fearful.  But it all starts with observation of the fear.

 

That is all for today.  I want you to be happy – so please start observing your fears.  Right now.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Learning to Be In the Moment

August 26, 2008

In the last few days one of our readers asked me to talk a bit more about being in the moment.  They wanted some suggestions about how to be in the moment.  So here is that explanation.  Let’s go!

 

True self is always in the moment

In the last few weeks we have discussed at length the ideas of true self and false self.  The link to being in the moment is whether or not we are acting from true self or accepting the unhappiness of false self.

 

When we are operating from true self we are in the moment.  You might ask “how will I know when that happens?”  Here are a few ways to recognize that you are in the moment.

 

The most important way to recognize that you are in the moment is that you are absolutely peaceful and calm.  You are so calm that you do not really care what happens.  Deep inside you know that whatever happens is just fine because you know that you can handle it.  You know that the choices you make are the correct choices and that all you need to do is take the appropriate steps and you will accomplish anything you choose to do.

 

Another way to recognize when you are in the moment is that you do not notice the passage of time.  Whatever you are doing, you have become so involved that you do not realize that several hours have passed.

 

I heard a good example of this recently.  Leonard Bernstein, the conductor and composer, was recounting a time when he was conducting a symphonic performance.  He said that he stepped on the podium and began conducting.  The next thing he remembered was the applause at the end of the event.  He had been in the moment so deeply that several hours had passed without him realizing that passage.

 

Have you ever noticed yourself watching your thoughts or actions?  Whether you realized it or not you were being the “observer”.  There are many spiritual and religious practices that discuss the idea of observation as a way to self mastery.

 

For me, observation is the key to really learning how to be in the moment.  We will discuss observation at greater length tomorrow.  For now just note that whenever you step outside of yourself for the shortest instant and see yourself from a different perspective you are in the moment.  When you catch that glimpse congratulate yourself for that achievement and begin to recognize the feeling, and then repeat this as often as possible.

 

False self is never in the moment

By definition, false self can never be in the moment.  That is why it is false self.  False self is the place where we experience all the things that we do not want to be.  Let’s take a look at a few characteristics of false self and why that is not being in the moment.

 

First of all, whenever we are not happy we are not in the moment.  False self has a myriad of excuses that it decides are reasons for not being happy.  It does not have the possessions that it wants so it is unhappy.  It was awakened in the middle of the night so it is upset that it did not get enough sleep.  And here is the big one.  Someone burned its toast this morning so it must be upset all day about that insult.

 

Why are these things not being in the moment?  Let’s take a closer look at a few of these examples.  See if you can spot the pattern.

 

When false self does not think that it has the possessions that it should have it is actually envisioning another time.  In that envisioned time period false self has the big house, the expensive car, the beautiful clothes that it thinks it should have now.  False self does not have those possessions at this moment and it senses a disconnect.  It also senses the possibility that it might never get those possessions.  False self becomes unhappy until it either finds something new about which to feel unhappy or we get back in the moment.

 

If false self is awakened and is upset because it did not get enough sleep it is actually envisioning a time when it should get the sleep it “needs.”  It is convinced that it needs eight hours of undisturbed sleep.  When it is disturbed it compares this vision of the current situation with the idealized time.  It wants to be in the idealized time and gets upset because the current time does not match it.

 

Once again false self decides that it needs to be upset.  That upset can last for a few minutes, hours, or days.  The upset will last until it finds something it views as more important to get upset with or true self takes over and we get back in the moment.

 

Finally, let’s look at what happens when someone burns the toast that false self had planned to eat for breakfast.  This egregious affront to false self causes it to think back on all the previous meals it enjoyed when the toast was prepared properly.  Once again, the envisioned time frame does not match the current experience.

 

For the rest of the day false self takes this perceived injury out on everyone it meets.  It yells at its fellow commuters.  It is sullen with its co-workers.  When it gets home it yells at the children.  It was unhappy all day because of some burned toast.

 

Did you see the pattern here?  It was the false self putting itself in another time period and comparing it to the current experience.  That is the definition of not being in the moment.  The idealized time period will never match the current experience, yet false self never ceases attempting to make it match.

 

When our concentration is not on the current experience, by definition we are not in the moment.  True self concentrates completely on the current experience and endeavors to understand that situation.  True self does not care about a future or past time period.  True self knows that when we concentrate completely on what is going on NOW everything else will take care of itself.

 

Eckhart Tolle has done some excellent work with teaching people to be in the moment.  That work might help you as it has helped me.  Please check our resource page for more information.

 

That is all for today.  Tomorrow we will look at a few tips for learning to be in the moment.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

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We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Examining a Grudge

August 25, 2008

Welcome Back

Welcome back!  I hope everyone had a great weekend.  The weather in this part of the northeastern US remained great.  I wish the best to all those who have experienced hardships from Tropical Storm Fay.  I hope to take a little time later this week to explain a perspective of what was going on there.  That storm appeared to be an indication that the planetary rebalancing is getting closer.

 

Also this week we will take a closer look at how we can learn to stay in the moment.  I received an inquiry from a reader who asked if we could go into further depth about how to stay in the moment.  We will take a bit of time this week to do just that.

 

Today we will take a look at an example of how the false self holds a grudge.  The lesson to take from this is how unhappy this can make us for many years.

 

Are you ready to look at how silly a grudge can be?  Let’s go!

 

An Old Grudge

Many people know that I am a cineaste, a person who is a fan of movies.  My preference is classic movies from all over the world.  Pursuing this interest allows me to watch the false self in action from many perspectives.  Sometimes it is the way the plot is written and the characters act out their parts.  When researching the history of the movies one encounters many stories where actors lived their real lives deeply enmeshed in their false self illusions and fears.

 

This weekend I was watching an interview with a very famous director.  The interview was recorded several years ago when the director was over eighty years old.  The director has since passed.

 

During the interview the discussion turned to an incident many years ago when the director had punched a critic.  When asked about the incident the director readily admitted to having attacked the critic.

 

Evidently the reason the director physically attacked the critic was that the critic had written reviews of the director’s work that the director did not like.  The director said that he thought that by punching the critic he would intimidate the critic so that the critic would no longer write about him.

 

The part of the interview that I found extremely sad was that the director said “I hated that man then, and I hate him now.  Even though he is now dead I will always hate him.”

 

Carrying Great Pain

What I found so sad about this interview was that this world acclaimed man had chosen to bring himself so much pain.  This deep seated hate of the critic had caused him to act in a very painful manner and attack the man.  Then he chose to cause continuing pain by nurturing a deep and hateful grudge for the critic.

 

How many of us carry similar pain?  False self decided that some incident in the past was so hurtful that we were going to punish the one(s) who caused the hurt by hating them for the rest of our lives.

 

I have an acquaintance that has carried the same type of hurt for over thirty five years.  He was in combat in the Viet Nam war and has yet to release his hate of the ones he fought.  Just like the director, the object of his hate is dead, yet he continues to hurt himself by continuing to hate.

 

Why Does False Self Hate?

There are many reasons that false self hates, but they all come down to either perceiving that it has been hurt or anticipating that it might be hurt.  In the case of our director, his false self perceived that it had been hurt.  Let’s step through this based on what we have learned in the last few weeks.

 

This all starts with the director’s false self identification with his work.  As we have seen, this identification causes false self to think that the film is part of itself.  Now that the film is part of itself any remark (true or not) that false self chooses not to like will be viewed as an attack on false self.  An attack on the film is the same as an attack on false self.

 

In order to “defend” itself false self determined that the best course of action would be to attack the critic.  The stated reason was to keep the critic from writing about the director’s work.  This means that the false self attacked the critic so that the critic would not continue to hurt the false self by writing about the director’s work.  In other words, the critic could not hurt the false self if he no longer wrote about the director.

 

In this case the director first perceived an attack on false self through the unflattering writings of the critic.  Hurt number one for the false self.  The false self attacked the critic to keep him from hurting false self again.  Hurt number two for the false self.  This attack hurt false self much more than it hurt the critic.

 

In order to “prove” that false self was “right” when it attacked the critic the false self then chose to hate the critic.  The false self “logic” here was that if we could always view the critic with hate then we would not have to look at the possibility that we might have been wrong to attack the critic.

 

This became hurt number three for the false self. And it became the hurt that it nurtured for the rest of its life.  It is so sad to see people hurt themselves in this manner.  When we really understand how the false self is controlling our lives through fears and illusions we wonder why people choose to hurt themselves so deeply.  At least I wonder about that.

 

That’s all for today.  I am very interested in hearing your insights regarding the example we looked at today.  A discussion about this type of situation is always thought provoking for everyone involved.  Please share your thoughts with our other readers.

 

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We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Summarizing the False Self

August 22, 2008

Thankful Friday

As always, we will take a moment and thank those around us for their work and assistance.  Our first thank you goes out to the imsezha who have provided such wonderful weather for the last two weeks.  The weather this month in this area of the northeast US has been close to perfect.  (If you want to know who the imsezha are post a comment asking the question.)

 

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What is the false self?

For the past few weeks we have taken a very detailed look at the concepts of true self and false self.  Today we are going to summarize the major characteristic of the false self and how it functions.  Our hope is that the more we recognize false self the more we will recognize the pain that comes from living in the false self identity.

 

We have learned that false self begins to be created as soon as we are born.  It knows it is supposed to be trained by true self.  True self is our nonphysical self that is the repository for everything we have ever learned.  At the beginning of each lifetime it is supposed to take charge and train false self to be the eyes and ears for true self during the lifetime.  True self is supposed to make all the decisions, not false self.

 

On this planet we do not do this with our infants.  The parents do not understand what true self is, so they allow the false self to take charge.  False self knows that it is not supposed to be in charge and begins to form its identity based on this fear of being alone and being in charge.

 

False Self Forms Attachments

False self in an infant is supposed to look to true self for guidance and its identity.  Because we do not train our infants to listen to true self our infants begin to take their false self identity from the physical objects around them.

 

The initial attachments that an infant forms are to their body and to those people around it.  Gradually the infant begins to form attachments to their thoughts and ideas.

 

By the time the child is about seven years old these initial attachments are set strongly enough that they will govern the child’s behavior for the rest of their life – or until they learn to retrain the false self.  There are times when true self steps in and says that we can rid ourselves of an attachment or a fear, and we do so.  However these times are relatively few and far between.

 

A Tangled Web of Fears and Attachments

As we have just seen, false self begins to form its identity from the fear that it knows that it is not supposed to be in charge of the lifetime.  It has not understood that true self is supposed to make the decisions.  It has also not been trained to listen to true self for guidance.  It becomes very fearful when it comes to the conclusion that it will have to operate alone for the lifetime.

 

In order to quell that base fear false self begins to create an identity based on attachments to the things around it.  As the child gets older these attachments become the source of the false self identity.

 

The false self identity is now made of such attachments as its clothing, its automobile, its body, its nationality, its religion, and many more.  Because the false self has yet to understand that true self is always available it believes that it is actually all these attachments.

 

The additional fears come from the perceived questioning or injuring of any of the attachments.  False self identifies with its automobile.  If someone scratches that automobile, then false self perceives that it has been scratched.  False self identifies with its religious beliefs.  If someone appears to question those religious beliefs, false self views this as its identity being questioned.

 

Frequently when the false self identity is injured or questioned false self thinks it has to defend or attack in order to protect that identity.  If someone questions its political views, false self thinks it has to lash out at that someone to defend its identity.  If false self thinks someone is going to take its possessions, it attacks in order to protect those possessions and therefore its identity.

 

The Difficulty of Retraining False Self

Ok – so we are starting to see where our unhappiness comes from.  Our false self is attached to all kinds of objects, people, and thoughts that it thinks create its identity.  We spend most of our lives acting out the fears that false self experiences because it is protecting its false self identity.  We know we are unhappy.  Why can’t we learn to become happy?

 

The reason why it takes awhile to learn to be happy is that false self is resisting us at every turn.  As we start to listen to and understand our true self we also start to question the false self identity.  We start to see the fears and attachments for what they are – our source of unhappiness.

 

Initially false self does not know whether or not it can trust true self.  False self has been running things for many years and has become quite afraid of anyone or anything questioning its fears and attachments.  It has spent the entire lifetime defending those fears and attachments.  It does not like true self questioning its identity.

 

We retrain false self by continuously facing its fears and attachments.  We learn to listen to true self and the quiet little voice that will not submit to those fears and attachments.  That quiet little voice eventually convinces false self that true self understands what is going on and can be trusted.

 

Although we can have great insights and make large advancements in a single step, the typical path is one of small but frequent steps.  We see a small fear and conquer it.  We see a small attachment and let it go.  We make the small steps as we see them, but do not wait for the big steps.  Those will happen, but they will happen in their own time when we least expect them.  The gradual daily progress is what will bring us closer to our true happiness.

 

That is all for today.  I hope everyone has a great weekend!

 

Until Monday –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Understanding the False Self Identity – part 1

August 20, 2008

Housekeeping

My apologies that yesterdays post went out late.  When I uploaded the post I filed it as a draft.  I should have published it.  I will endeavor to publish correctly in the future.  Also, I am still resolving the issue with the daily update emails that shows each paragraph as one long line.  I will keep looking into that issue until I get it resolved.

 

Today we are going to start to look at how false self develops its identity.  Are you ready?  Here we go!

 

False Self Should Not Have an Identity

As we have discussed this idea of false self, we have gotten a feeling for the nature of the false self.  In our discussion on the origin of false self we talked about how we are supposed to train our false self to listen to true self.  False self is designed to be the physical interface for true self and nothing more.

 

Because we do not train false self properly it begins to take on an identity from its surroundings.  By the time it is about age seven it has developed a very clearly defined idea of who it thinks it is supposed to be.  It is also very attached to that self created identity.

 

Unless we learn to see through this false self identity as we grow older we continue to accept the identity and the attachments.  As we grow older we continue to add items to that identity.  Because we have not learned better, we also continue to create attachments to the new additions to our identity.  Of itself, the identity is not that much of a problem.  The real problem is the attachments.  Without the attachments the false self identity gradually fades away.  In fact that is how we eventually rid ourselves of it – we let go of the attachments.

 

None of this should happen.  False self should be trained to look to true self for identity.  Some of us start to look for a better way because our false self identity has finally become so painful that we cannot live in it any longer.  During the next few days we will look at how to identify the false self identity and gradually ease our pain and unhappiness.

 

How False Self Constructs Its Identity

When we talked about how fear comes from false self, we also mentioned how false self begins to develop it false identity.  As a young and improperly trained mind false self creates attachments to the items it finds around it.  It attaches to its body, its thoughts and the people around it.  It begins to weave these attachments into the beginning of its false identity.

 

As it grows older it begins to find other external things that it can weave into its false identity.  It might pick a political party to identify with.  It might pick a religion or ethnic group to identify with.  It might view its job as a part of its identity.  Pick an external situation or object and some false self probably views it as part of its identity.

 

Elsewhere on this site we have heard about how false self views any challenge to its attachments as a challenge to itself.  Think about this for a minute.  If false self thinks that it really is all these situations to which it is attached, then it has no choice but to defend itself when those situations or attachments are questioned.

 

By questioning the situations or attachments you are questioning the identity of false self.  It thinks that it has to defend or even attack when questioned or else it will lose its identity.  It does not see that the identity is based on improper understanding.  All it knows is that it is being questioned and must defend or attack.

 

This is the source of the pain that comes when we live within this false self identity.  We are always defending or attacking in order to protect our false identity.  After awhile this becomes wearisome and many of us seek a better way to live.

 

A Few Things You Are Not

False self probably has hundreds of external situations that it thinks collectively create its identity.  I would be writing for years if I tried to list them all.  Instead we will start with a few today and continue the list tomorrow.

 

You are not our body.  True self knows that this body is only temporary and will exist only for the current lifetime.  False self is encouraged by those around it to view its body as an integral part of its identity.  Any injury to the body becomes an injury to false self which causes continuous pain and suffering.

 

You are not your opinions.  False self is constantly looking for something to help create its false identity.  Thoughts are very handy because they are always close at hand.  False self creates opinions on everything and then attaches to those opinions.  False self takes those attachments and adds them to the false identity.

 

You are not your possessions.  False self takes anything close at hand and attaches to it and then adds those attachments to its false identity.  Possessions are always nearby so they are easily added to the false self.  Like any other attachment false self sees loss of or damage to a possession as damage to itself.  Once again we see another continuous source of pain caused by false self.

 

You are not your clothes.  This is a variation on the idea of you are not your possessions.  I will mention it because many of us acquire clothes for the purpose of creating an “image”.  That “image” usually originates from false self looking to create or project its false identity.  We become unhappy if we do not have the right clothes to project this “image”.  We also become unhappy if this “image” does not make us happy.  That is a bit of circular logic, but false self does not care about logic.  It just goes and acquires some new clothes which it will use to project its “new image”.  And of course it will become unhappy with this “new image” and will have to create another “new image”.  And on it goes until we become tired of the pain.

 

That’s it for today.  Tomorrow we will look at more things that false thinks we are and true self knows we are not.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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