The Compass vs. False Self

September 9, 2008

Review

For the last few days we have been learning to use my compass.  This is a tool that has been very helpful to me over the years.  Today we will look at how the compass can help us to recognize false self behavior.

 

Are you ready?  Let’s go!

 

The compass is true self

What I have done with the compass is to substitute the way that true self looks at existence for the false self illusions.  When we are first created, long before we are able to take a physical lifetime, one of the first things true self learns is why we were created.

 

If you think about it, shouldn’t we know why we are created?  Shouldn’t that also be something simple and easy to understand?  I keep repeating this, but what could be more simple and easy to understand?

 

The reason that we exist is to learn and grow and share that learning and growth with each other.

 

The only rule is that we do not interfere with the free will of another individual because that interferes with their ability to learn and grow in the manner that they choose.

 

Our true self learned this concept almost as soon as we were created.  We have lived our entire existence based on this idea.  We have used this as our guide during our countless lifetimes on other planets.  We have used this during the time that we are nonphysical and are not physically present anywhere.

 

The only time we do not use this principle on which we were created is when we follow what passes for decisions made by our false self when we are on this planet.  As we have stated in many previous posts, this is because we have not properly trained false self to listen to the guidance of true self.

 

The compass vs. false self

For the past month we have taken a long look at false self.  We have attempted to understand why we have a false self, recognize some of the false self behaviors, and explain different kinds of false self attachments.  There is a common thread that runs through all false self behavior.  That thread is that we are not reading our compass.

 

At first it can be very difficult to live our lives by taking readings from our compass.  Many of the ideas and behaviors that we take for granted are diametrically opposed to the compass readings.

 

False self thinks that it has to look after itself first before it can take care of others.  This is true, but not necessarily in the way that false self thinks it is.  False self thinks that if it helps someone else it has to give up or lose something.  False self is convinced that if it shares something with someone else that means that it no longer has what it shared.

 

Think about this for a minute.  If our primary purpose is to learn and then share that learning, how can there be a finite amount of learning?  Isn’t there always something more to learn?  When false self is afraid of losing something when it shares what it has learned – all it is doing is believing in an illusion.

 

There is an infinite amount of knowledge to be gained and there is nothing that true self can lose when it shares that learning.  False self is the only one worried about loss when anything is shared.

 

So much for the learning and sharing part of reading compass.  Let’s look at the part of the reading that talks about not interfering with free will.

 

False self interferes with free will all of the time.  Let’s look at a few situations where it is easy to see this in action.

 

False self is fearful and wants to change a situation so that the fear is eliminated.  One common way of changing the situation is to demand that other people change their behavior.  We find this deliberate interference in everything from our personal relationships, to our justice system and even in international relations.

 

This happens in our personal relationships when our spouse does something that causes us fear.  It may be that our possessiveness is triggered when they talk to someone else.  Possessiveness is just a false self fear.  Even though our spouse may find the conversation very helpful, we demand that they do not talk to this person again.  Our false self behavior – fear – has caused us to interfere with the way our spouse is choosing to learn.

 

In our criminal justice system this happens when we continue to punish individuals who have committed a crime and are attempting to learn form their mistake.  I am not saying that people do not make mistakes.  Neither am I saying that there are many people who do not want to learn from their mistakes. 

 

My point is that there are many people who do the crime, do their time, and then are punished for the rest of their lives.  When we create a justice system that does not make the effort to truly rehabilitate those who want to rehabilitate themselves we are interfering with the free will of those individuals.

 

The same is true for international relations.  When one country decides that it is afraid of another country it usually decides to punish the other country.  The punishments can range from economic sanctions to pre-emptive war.

 

The dispute is usually between the leaders of those countries, not between the citizens who make up the populations of the country.  By punishing the citizens of a country because of a dislike of their leader we are interfering with their free will to live the way they chose.  Who knows, given enough time and free will they might even get rid of their leader and chose one that we like.

 

Multiple levels

We have just seen how we can apply our compass to false self based fear.  These examples looked at several levels from the personal to the international.  They all share the same root.

 

False self based fear is not the only way that we trigger interference with the free will of others.  It is just one of the more common ways.  One of the ways we can learn to use the compass is to use it to read our relationships with those around us as well as our thoughts about the situations around us.  Whenever the compass tells us that we are interfering with the free will of other individuals we have found a very good indication that we are engaging in false self behavior.

 

That’s all for today.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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Summarizing the False Self

August 22, 2008

Thankful Friday

As always, we will take a moment and thank those around us for their work and assistance.  Our first thank you goes out to the imsezha who have provided such wonderful weather for the last two weeks.  The weather this month in this area of the northeast US has been close to perfect.  (If you want to know who the imsezha are post a comment asking the question.)

 

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What is the false self?

For the past few weeks we have taken a very detailed look at the concepts of true self and false self.  Today we are going to summarize the major characteristic of the false self and how it functions.  Our hope is that the more we recognize false self the more we will recognize the pain that comes from living in the false self identity.

 

We have learned that false self begins to be created as soon as we are born.  It knows it is supposed to be trained by true self.  True self is our nonphysical self that is the repository for everything we have ever learned.  At the beginning of each lifetime it is supposed to take charge and train false self to be the eyes and ears for true self during the lifetime.  True self is supposed to make all the decisions, not false self.

 

On this planet we do not do this with our infants.  The parents do not understand what true self is, so they allow the false self to take charge.  False self knows that it is not supposed to be in charge and begins to form its identity based on this fear of being alone and being in charge.

 

False Self Forms Attachments

False self in an infant is supposed to look to true self for guidance and its identity.  Because we do not train our infants to listen to true self our infants begin to take their false self identity from the physical objects around them.

 

The initial attachments that an infant forms are to their body and to those people around it.  Gradually the infant begins to form attachments to their thoughts and ideas.

 

By the time the child is about seven years old these initial attachments are set strongly enough that they will govern the child’s behavior for the rest of their life – or until they learn to retrain the false self.  There are times when true self steps in and says that we can rid ourselves of an attachment or a fear, and we do so.  However these times are relatively few and far between.

 

A Tangled Web of Fears and Attachments

As we have just seen, false self begins to form its identity from the fear that it knows that it is not supposed to be in charge of the lifetime.  It has not understood that true self is supposed to make the decisions.  It has also not been trained to listen to true self for guidance.  It becomes very fearful when it comes to the conclusion that it will have to operate alone for the lifetime.

 

In order to quell that base fear false self begins to create an identity based on attachments to the things around it.  As the child gets older these attachments become the source of the false self identity.

 

The false self identity is now made of such attachments as its clothing, its automobile, its body, its nationality, its religion, and many more.  Because the false self has yet to understand that true self is always available it believes that it is actually all these attachments.

 

The additional fears come from the perceived questioning or injuring of any of the attachments.  False self identifies with its automobile.  If someone scratches that automobile, then false self perceives that it has been scratched.  False self identifies with its religious beliefs.  If someone appears to question those religious beliefs, false self views this as its identity being questioned.

 

Frequently when the false self identity is injured or questioned false self thinks it has to defend or attack in order to protect that identity.  If someone questions its political views, false self thinks it has to lash out at that someone to defend its identity.  If false self thinks someone is going to take its possessions, it attacks in order to protect those possessions and therefore its identity.

 

The Difficulty of Retraining False Self

Ok – so we are starting to see where our unhappiness comes from.  Our false self is attached to all kinds of objects, people, and thoughts that it thinks create its identity.  We spend most of our lives acting out the fears that false self experiences because it is protecting its false self identity.  We know we are unhappy.  Why can’t we learn to become happy?

 

The reason why it takes awhile to learn to be happy is that false self is resisting us at every turn.  As we start to listen to and understand our true self we also start to question the false self identity.  We start to see the fears and attachments for what they are – our source of unhappiness.

 

Initially false self does not know whether or not it can trust true self.  False self has been running things for many years and has become quite afraid of anyone or anything questioning its fears and attachments.  It has spent the entire lifetime defending those fears and attachments.  It does not like true self questioning its identity.

 

We retrain false self by continuously facing its fears and attachments.  We learn to listen to true self and the quiet little voice that will not submit to those fears and attachments.  That quiet little voice eventually convinces false self that true self understands what is going on and can be trusted.

 

Although we can have great insights and make large advancements in a single step, the typical path is one of small but frequent steps.  We see a small fear and conquer it.  We see a small attachment and let it go.  We make the small steps as we see them, but do not wait for the big steps.  Those will happen, but they will happen in their own time when we least expect them.  The gradual daily progress is what will bring us closer to our true happiness.

 

That is all for today.  I hope everyone has a great weekend!

 

Until Monday –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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How True Self Uses Possessions

August 19, 2008

How True Self Uses Possessions

 

Recap

Yesterday we looked at how false self attaches itself to possessions.  We heard about the way false self feels hurt when one of our possessions is damaged.  We also started to get a feeling for the idea that we should view possessions as tools that we use while we are learning and growing.

 

Today we will take a closer look at how true self uses possessions.  Are you ready?  Let’s go!

 

True Self for Our Learning

We have seen how false self wants to attach to many things, especially possessions.  True self is happy and self contained.  When we are being our true self we realize that objects and possessions are temporary.  They come into our lives when we need them and we should not get upset when they leave our lives.

 

True self views all objects as tools which it needs to do its job.  What is that job?  As we have stated many times on this site – we exist to learn and grow and share that learning and growth with each other.  So the job of our true self is to continue to learn and grow.

 

True self evaluates all objects and possessions in the light of what it needs to learn and grow.  When an object is no longer needed for our learning true self does not care if it leaves our life – true self just allows that object to leave.  We will not hang on to the object because of attachment.  We will maintain possession only if we anticipate needing that object.

 

True self does not care if an unneeded object leaves our possession.  True self views this as one less thing we have to look after.  True self also knows that if an object leaves our possession and we need it again – then we will acquire it again.

 

At first this might seem like a lot of work.  First we acquire something and then we let it go.  Then we acquire it again.  However, once the object has ceased to be useful, how can we know if we are going to ever need it again?  I view that the work required to maintain the object “just in case” is usually far more work than letting it go and then getting it back again.  If we let it go and then get it back we might get a better one back or one that is more suited for the task.

 

Also, the fewer possessions we have the more simple our life becomes.  The more simple our life becomes the more time we have to concentrate on our real job of learning and sharing that learning.

 

True Self and Status Symbols

Status symbols are just another way to describe attachments.  A status symbol is supposed to convey a certain image about the person who possesses the status symbol.  False self is concerned about identity so it seeks status symbols and other methods of conspicuous consumption.  We will discuss false self and identity later this week.  For now, let’s just accept that anytime we seek to purchase a status symbol we are acting from false self.

 

True self can purchase a status symbol and not do so from an attachment.  Let’s take a look at the example of buying a watch.  True self realizes that we need a watch in order to keep track of time.  It is important that when we make a commitment to be somewhere on time that we honor that commitment.

 

So we need a watch – which one should we buy?  If we look at simple functionality an inexpensive watch could be all that we need.  However, an inexpensive watch may not be durable enough.  True self recognizes that we will need to keep track of time for the rest of our lifetime.  Now we consider a more expensive and more durable watch.

 

Next, true self looks at the social situations that it will be in while wearing the watch.  If we will be in very formal situations then we will need a watch that is appropriate for those situations.  That would mean we now need a durable and handsomely decorated watch.

 

True self is also able to afford an upscale watch without financial hardship.  We have now worked ourselves into the territory of some watches that many people would consider as status symbols.  However, true self is viewing this in a pragmatic manner.  We need a watch.  The correct watch for our needs is considered a status symbol.  True self does not care about status symbols – it only cares about acquiring the correct watch.  If the correct watch had been a $10 throw away watch, that is what true self would have acquired, even if we could have afforded a $100 watch.

 

It is all about acquiring the correct tool for the job.  That is all true self cares about.  It has much more important things to be doing than caring about a bunch of attachments to physical objects.

 

We Do Not Have to Renounce Possessions

Many spiritual and religious disciplines teach that we should renounce or severely limit our physical possessions.  I do not see it that way.

 

My viewpoint is that we need to renounce our attachments to physical possessions and material things.  There is a big difference between renouncing having the objects and renouncing the attachments to the objects.

 

When we renounce possessing physical objects we do not address the underlying attachments.  We may renounce possessions except for just those few things we perceive that we need to live our life.  Two things happen because of this.

 

First, we may pass up some very important learning opportunities because we have renounced possessions.  If those learning opportunities require us to acquire some possessions then we will not be able to learn those lessons.

 

Second, we can still become very attached to the few objects remaining in our life.  Renouncing possessions has not worked because we still have false self attachments.

 

To me, the better approach is to learn to approach possessions and physical objects as true self.  We renounce our attachments, but recognize the importance that possessions and objects can have on the lessons we choose to learn.

 

Because we are not attached to the objects we do not care as the objects enter and leave our lives.  We are concentrating on our learning and the appropriate objects are always there.  Part of that learning is to know when and how to acquire the appropriate objects.

 

Well, that is all for today.  We will see you again tomorrow when we will start to take a look at some of the facets of false self identity.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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False Self Wants Life to be Fair

August 14, 2008

Distribution Update

It looks like we might have email distribution of the daily post working properly again.  I confess that I might have accidentally turned it off.  I definitely did change the format without realizing that I had done so.

 

I write the blog a day or two before it is posted.  Therefore the updates on the distribution may be slightly out of date.  On Wednesday morning I received the email containing that day’s post.  However it was in a “teaser” form.  I had unknowingly changed the distribution to be in this format.  I have since changed that back and hopefully today’s email distribution will be of the entire post.

 

If you missed any posts during the email distribution outage please go back and read those posts.  The discussion regarding true self/false self builds on the information from previous posts.  By not reading the other posts you might miss part of the entire explanation.

 

Sign up!  For a few days FeedBurner was not accepting new emails subscriptions.  If you were unable to sign up recently please click here to subscribe to the daily post.

 

Finally – there may still be a problem with the RSS feed being updated.  Right now the RSS feed seems to be about a week out of date and I cannot find a way to force it to update.  I am asking anyone else who is having any problems with the RSS feed to contact me so that I can research them.

 

Enough of that.  Let’s go to today’s post!

 

Life Isn’t Fair

I know – we all heard that as kids.  Did we agree with this idea then?  Do we agree with it now?

 

We have probably never agreed with the idea that life isn’t fair.  Why?  Where do we get the idea that life should be fair?

 

Hhmmm…  We have been talking about false self for almost two weeks.  Could it be that false self wants life to be fair?

 

We have talked about false self being the source of our unhappiness.  Doesn’t some form of unhappiness usually precede our insistence that life should be fair?  It would be a good guess that false self wants life to be fair.  But why?

 

When Life is Fair it is Easy

Remember that false self is composed mainly of fears and attachments.  It does not really like to think hard about things.  It wants things to be simple and readily apparent.  In our post about life being a journey we looked at the idea that false self wants life to be a formula.  A formula is easy to understand and follow.

 

In much the same way false self wants life to be fair.  It thinks that there is a formula that will bring fairness.  For example, “if I am fair to people then they should be fair to me.”  Another example would be “if I do a good job at work then I will keep my job and get raises.”

 

When false self follows some formula that it thinks will bring about fairness it is always disappointed.   It does a good job but loses its job anyway.  It is “fair” to other people but perceives that other people are not fair to it.  Then it takes these upsets personally and the downward spiral of happiness continues.

 

So if life is not fair, what is it?

 

Life Is What It Is

At first glance this seems to be either a flippant or simplistic answer.  Maybe it is both.  However, let’s take a look at it and attempt to understand it.

 

We will start with our post about why we exist.  I will summarize that post but it would be helpful if you read the entire post.

 

The reason that we exist is to learn and grow and then to share that learning and growth with those around us.

 

Believe it or not, that is all there is to life.  We touch upon that idea in greater detail in other posts on this blog so we will not spend much time on it right now.  When we start at the beginning many things become much easier to understand.

 

OK – so what does that have to do with “life is what it is?”

 

I was just getting to that.  If our main purpose in life is to learn, then if we live strictly by a formula then we drastically limit our opportunities to learn.  What do we learn if we perform tasks A, B, and C and always get result D?

 

If life is fair then all we have to do is be fair to other people and they will be fair to us.  This takes all the learning out because we think we know what it means to be fair.  “You don’t have to tell me what fair is, I already know that.”  Does that sound familiar?  That does not sound like a very open minded person, does it?

 

How can we learn when we are not open minded? We can’t.  When we are living life in a close minded way we are attempting to prove the truth of what we think we already know.  Once again, where is the new learning in that?

When we start to throw fears, attachments, self validation, and all those other marvelous characteristics of the false self into the mix, we see how we are closing off our learning opportunities.  We are trying to make life what we want it to be, and that never brings happiness.

 

It is far more satisfying to allow life to be what it is, approach it with the open mindedness of true self, and learn from the experience.  Our true self knows that life is whatever it is.  We know that true self wants to learn from whatever happens in life and therefore does not attempt to make it “fair” or otherwise fit into a formula.

 

When we recognize false self wanting life to be fair we must remember that once again we are true self observing the behavior of false self.  Tell false self that life isn’t fair – it is what it is.  Tell false self that true self knows what to do with this nebulous understanding of life.  Eventually false self will quiet down and start to trust true self.  Now we are on the path to finding our true happiness.

 

That’s all for today!  Please stop banging your head against the wall by trying to make life into something it cannot be.  As always, I want you to become at peace with yourself much sooner than I did.

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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More False Self Attachments to People

August 13, 2008

Update for Email Subscribers

I have been researching the ongoing issues regarding email subscriptions.  The current status is that somehow email subscriptions for our email account have been turned off.  I cannot get them turned back on even though the account settings show this service as being active.  Also, the account is rejecting any new requests for email subscriptions.

 

I apologize for these issues.  When I set up this site two months ago my research showed that FeedBurner appeared to be the premier subscription service.  They had been quite stable and provided quality service.

 

Now, because it is free, there is very little information being published by FeedBurner regarding these issues.  The support areas on the site show that other people are having similar issues with their feeds.  Also, because it is free, there is no good way to call someone at FeedBurner to find out what is going on.

 

I will continue to research this issue and keep our readers updated as I can.  Thank you for your patience and your efforts to read this blog.  Despite the problems with FeedBurner the visits to this site have been increasing.

 

Thank you for the effort you are making to read this.

 

Let’s go to today’s post!

 

Fears and Attachments Are Interconnected

As we have heard about the true self and false for the last week or so, I hope you have seen that the false self fears and attachments are closely interconnected.  Almost every time that we looked at one we have heard about the other.  I want you to really start to feel just how interconnected these two things are.  The better you understand the interconnection the sooner you will become adept at untangling them.

 

When we first start observing our behavior we usually only see the fears.  We are afraid of our boss, our spouse, the police, and so on.  We start to deal with the fears but it may take awhile to understand the underlying attachment that caused the fearful behavior.  The paradox is that the attachment is also based on a fear.  I have had a fun time pulling apart my fears and attachments.  Possibly some of that experience might help you.

 

An Example

Let’s take an example of a fear that many of us have.  We will pull it apart and look at the underlying attachment and related fears.

 

The example that we will use is a fear of our spouse.  The specific fear that we will look at is our fear that they may hurt us if they no longer like us.  Let’s step through this from the beginning:

 

  1. Starting with the base fear of false self, we find that false self knows that it is not supposed to be alone.  It knows that it should have guidance and direction but has been trained out of looking to our true self for that direction.  When it finds someone, in this example our spouse, who accepts it that fear is somewhat assuaged.
  2. Now that the fear is somewhat assuaged, false self wants to keep it that way.  It is much happier if it does not have to look at fears.  To keep the fear in check the false self creates an attachment to our spouse.  It hopes that by keeping that person around it will not have to look at the fear.
  3. Now that the attachment is in place false self develops a new fear.  That is the fear of losing or upsetting our spouse.  Remember, the attachment is supposed to enable our spouse to assuage the underlying fear of being alone.  Now we have a fear of losing our spouse.  Our actions are based on this fear, but stem from what is mentioned in points one and two.

 

In summary: false self is fearful because it knows that it is not supposed to be alone and has not been properly trained.  This fear causes it to attach to its spouse.  That attachment in turn causes fear of losing the spouse.

 

This appears to be somewhat complicated.  When we start to look at our unhappiness it is hard enough to direct that attention to ourselves.  It is much easier to blame external situations for our unhappiness.

 

The Result

Our spouse decides that they no longer want to be with us.  Do we ask “could it be all the odd behavior we exhibited because of the attachment?”  No.  We blame it on the spouse because they have hurt us.  If we are hurt it has to be because of someone else now, doesn’t it?

 

You can see how it can take awhile to start to work through the fears and attachments.  The first step, as always, is accepting that we are the source of our unhappiness.  Then we must begin to honestly observe our behavior.

 

Gradually we will see that our spouse did not hurt us.  We acted out of a fear that came from our attachment to our spouse.  Our spouse did not reject us.  They rejected our behavior.  They probably gave us many chances to change that behavior.  After multiple chances it became apparent that we were more interested in our fear and its underlying attachment than relating to our spouse in a reasonable manner.

 

Our spouse did not understand all this.  They just saw our inability to control our behavior and rejected the behavior.  How many of us have been in more than one relationship that turned out like this?  I know that I have.

 

In reality, as we begin to understand our fears and attachments they are interrelated with other fears and attachments.  Sometimes it helps to follow one fear and its attachments to its roots.  Sometimes it is better to look at the attachments and then the fears. 

 

We can see how difficult it can become to start to pull apart our fears and attachments.  Please do not be concerned.  We all learn to do it in our own ways.  My method may help you and it might not.  It does not matter.

 

What matters is that you find your own way to resolve your fears and attachments.  As you do that you will start to notice that you are becoming a much happier person.

 

 

 

 

Until tomorrow –

 

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We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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True Self Sees Everyone as an Equal

August 12, 2008

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Now to the daily post.  Yesterday we talked about how and why false self creates attachments to people.  Today we look at how our true self relates to people.  Are you ready?  Let’s go!

 

True Self Does Not Attach to People

Our True Self has known since its creation that it did not need other individuals in order to simply exist.  It also knows that although help from other individuals is important, it does not need any particular individual for any help that it might require.

 

We all require occasional help to live our lives.  Also, we all help other individuals with their lives.  True self understands this and recognizes that attachments are not necessary.  True self knows that when we truly need help that any necessary help will be found.  True self does not need to attach itself to that help; it only needs to allow that assistance to happen.

 

False self is afraid to lose any help that might come its way.  Therefore it attaches to anyone who it thinks might help it.  Then it becomes afraid that the help might be withdrawn and attaches to the person perceived as providing help.  Frequently it will manipulate the perceived helper through blame, guilt, or shame.  The manipulation and the attachment spoil any possibility of a positive relationship.

 

True self knows we do not need to attach to anyone offering assistance.  We know that we can eventually resolve any situation, and that the appropriate assistance will always be available when we truly need it.  This inner strength and self confidence keep true self from needing attachments of any sort, especially to people.

 

True Self Treats Everyone as an Equal

Because true self has no fear of people and needs no attachments to them, we can treat each person we meet with the dignity and respect that they deserve.  True self looks at the true self in the people we meet during the course of a day. It knows that all individuals are children of the same Creator and are deserving of the same dignity and respect we want for ourselves.

 

True self does not look at and judge the false self which an individual is using for this lifetime.  True self always looks at and attempts to relate to the other true self that is operating the false self with which it is interacting physically.  As true self we do not allow the false self of another individual to cause us to lose our respect for their true self.

 

What we are describing here is the true meaning of treating everyone as an equal.  This is the way our true self relates to all other individuals.  This is how we want other individuals to relate to us, so we relate to them in the same manner.  Also, our true self does not care if the other individual does not return the same equality to us.

 

As true self we know that we cannot be diminished by any actual or perceived disrespect from someone else.  True self knows that we are doing just fine regardless of what anyone else thinks or feels about us.  Remember – it is the false self that cares about what others think about it.

 

True Self Knows That We Can Learn From Anyone

Do you remember back when we said that the purpose of existence is to learn and grow and then to share that learning and growth with each other?  Well, here is the link if you need a refresher.  Because our true self knows this, it also knows that it can learn from any other individual, no matter their level of advancement.

 

As true self we know that anyone we encounter during our day can teach us something, whether they know it or not.  True self knows that we have experience from which any individual we encounter might learn.

 

This is a very humbling realization.  We can all learn and grow from each other.  Therefore as true self we see all individuals as being equal.  We are merely attempting to learn from each other and help each other to grow.

 

This is the great engine that moves all of Creation forward.  All individuals treat each other with dignity and respect.  The primary purpose of each individual is to learn what they can and then share that learning with those around them.

 

The False Self Gets in the Way

As we have shown numerous times, false self is afraid of everything.  It does not like this idea of treating everyone as an equal.  It does not like the idea of being able to learn from anyone it encounters during the day.  After all, the false self  has to prove it is someone.  How can it do that when it has to accept that someone else might be right?

 

Any one who has read the writings on this site for awhile will recognize that we almost always come back to observing the false self behavior.  This is always the first step towards overcoming that behavior and learning to find our true happiness.  Today is no different.  Observe how our false self approaches other people during the course of your day.  Does it treat them as equals?  Does it think it can learn from them?

 

When we are observing this behavior we are being our true self.  True self knows that we must monitor our false self behavior so that we can train it to listen to true self.

 

True self wants to treat each individual with dignity and respect.  When we do this we are being our true self, not our false self.  True self knows that we exist to learn and share that learning.  When we are doing this we are being our true self.

 

The more we practice being our true self the more we gradually train our false self out of its fears and attachments.  As we learn to be our true self, the true happiness we seek comes closer.  There is no longer any room for the unhappiness that comes from our false self.

 

I keep imploring you to learn these methods of finding your true happiness.  Yes, it is a bit of work.  However it is important that we do the work.  I want nothing more than for each of you to find your true happiness much sooner that I found mine.

 

Until tomorrow –

 

Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.

 

 

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