Be Decisive

Something that was said on the Tuesday Release Into Peace conference call inspired me to write this post.  On Tuesday Unmani talked at length about making a decision and sticking with the decision.  Today we offer an additional perspective on being decisive.


Decide to “do” or “not do”

On Tuesday much of the discussion revolved around the idea of making a decision and then sticking with the decision.  It does not matter if we decide to “do” something or “not do” something.  The important thing is to come to peace inside as we are making our decision.  Then we stay with that decision.


Many times in our society we are urged to “do” something.  Many times this gives us the feeling that we have to “do” something.  We frequently interpret this as making decisions to take action.  We often forget that a clear decision to not act is still an action.  Consequently, the choice of acting or not acting is not that important.  The decision – and then sticking with the decision – is what is important.


Not sticking with the decision

There are some subtle points about the idea of sticking with the decision.  First, when we are wishy washy and immediately question the decision, we need to rethink the decision.


When we have immediate self doubt about the decision it means that we were not comfortable with our self when we made the decision.  When we made the decision we were acting from false self.  Now, false self is presenting us with its fear and doubts about the decision.  At this point we need to re-center and rethink the decision.


We may come back to the same decision or we may make a new decision.  It does not make a difference.  As long as we were centered and clear when we made the decision – we are on the correct track.  We make the decision, stick with it, and then we learn from the experience.


Learning when to rethink the decision

Second, another subtle point is when to rethink the decision.  So we have centered and made our decision.  How long do we stay with the decision?  The answer is – that depends.  I know that is not a great answer – but every situation is different, so the answer is entirely dependent on the situation.


If we are in a very fluid situation at work we may need to rethink or change our decision every few minutes.  If we are looking at a major life decision it may be years before we need to reconsider our decision.


Understanding how long to stick with a decision is a skill that we develop.  We take into account the type of situation as well as our internal guidance.  Sometimes we will see that we have been clinging to a decision too long and it is time to rethink.  Sometimes we have not stayed with it long enough and our fears and doubts have caused us to get out of the decision too early.


Gradually we learn to find the balance.  We center ourselves, make our decisions, and learn when to re-evaluate the situation.  The more we can stay in the moment the easier the process becomes.  In time we learn to trust ourselves and our decision making skills.  We gain confidence in ourselves.


Until tomorrow –


Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.




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