Skeletons in the Closet

Are you like me and have some skeletons in the closet?  Have you ever wondered what they were and how to start to get rid of them?  We look at how to do that today.


Thankful Friday

As always we start Friday by expressing thanks.  Today I would like to thank all of my fellow Americans for their participation in the governance of our country.  I would also like to thank everyone around the world who had the highest hopes for this country.  Thanks to all of you for your support and participation.


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What are the skeletons anyway?

I think we are all familiar with the idea of skeletons in the closet.  They are those things in our thinking that we are afraid to look at.  Where did they come from and how do we get rid of them?


In an earlier post we talked about attachments and why we develop them.  The skeletons in our closet are nothing more than our deepest fears.  We have become very attached to these fears.  We also do not want to look at these fears.  That is why we have created the attachments – somehow we have linked our identity to those fears.


The most devastating aspect of the skeletons is that we want to lock them in the closet.  This means that we are choosing to be in denial about them.  Being in denial means we do not want to look at the skeletons.  If we do not look at the skeletons we cannot get rid of them.


Open the door and shine a light

It sounds simple, but the best way to start to get rid of our skeletons is to open the closet door and shine a light on them.  This can be very frightening.  We have kept the skeletons behind that door for many years.  We have worked very hard at keeping it closed.  We might be very frightened to open it.


Nevertheless, we must open it.  We must begin to look at and accept our skeletons.  If we never look at them they will continue to negatively influence our thinking.  We will always have a fear of what is behind the door and we will never learn to live a fearless and truly happy life.


At least take a peek

Right now we may only be able to open the door for a quick second, and then immediately slam it again.  If that is all you can do – then at least do that.  Over time you will teach yourself to keep the door open for longer periods of time.


As you keep the door open longer you will find that some of the skeletons disappear as soon as you shine your light on them.  You will immediately recognize that they are benign and no longer have any power over you.


Some of the skeletons will take a little work.  These are the ones that we struggle with.  The unfortunate thing is that the struggle is actually with our Self – a struggle that we always lose.


Learn to work with the skeletons that do not go away immediately.  Understand what they are and why you are afraid of them.  Gradually you will work through your fears and learn to live a peaceful and truly happy life.


Have I gotten rid of all my skeletons?  No.  Have I gotten rid of some and am working on others?  Yes.  And, I am much happier, have much less fear, and have much more confidence than I did when I started many years ago.


I wish the same for you.


Until Monday –


Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.




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