Bouncing Back

Besides being a cineaste I am also follow auto racing.  This weekend I heard an interview with a driver who talked about not having to bounce back from a disappointment because he never left in the first place.  I thought this was an interesting variation on the idea of staying in the moment.


A mature young man

The racing driver I am discussing is quite a young man.  He has achieved a leadership position in his form of motorsports.  He is barely half way through his second season in the top level of his sport.  Over the last eighteen months this young man has impressed me with his maturity.


Over the last two seasons I have seen this young man take responsibility for his mistakes as well as for some made by his mechanics.  He has had some tremendous disappointments when certain rules were apparently unfairly called against him.  I do not ever remember him making a public statement that did not show a quiet and calm determination to move forward despite any setbacks that have occurred.


I have suspected that this young man has learned to be in the moment.  Everything that I have seen him do from the way he drives his car to the way he handles setbacks points to this conclusion.


One more disappointment

Recently this young man apparently won a very exciting race.  The finish of that race was one of the greatest and most exciting that I had seen in many years.  After the race, the race officials took away his victory because of an obscure interpretation of a vague rule.


During the interviews at the most recent race this weekend a reporter asked this very mature young man about his presumed disappointment.  She wondered how he managed to bounce back after the disappointment concerning this lost victory.


If you never left

This young man responded to this question by stating that he didn’t have to bounce back.  He said “I just stayed where I was and did not have to bounce back.”


That sure sounded to me like he was describing that he was knowingly staying in the moment.  He may not call it that, but for my money that is what he was doing.


Think about it for a moment.  He is saying that he is taking what would be a large disappointment to almost anyone else and not letting it affect him.  I did not sense any bluster or false martyrdom in his statement.  To me, he was truly saying that he did what he could do in the situation and he was not attached to the outcome.


This is a strange thing for a race car driver to think.  Race car drivers are very attached to the results of their efforts.  The statement “second place just means first loser” comes to mind.


I think this very mature young man cares very much about winning.  That is the reason he risks his life.  He wants to win every time he takes that risk.  However, it seems to me that when the race is finished and he has completed his job, he recognizes that he no longer has control over what happens.  He stays in the moment and does not get attached to the results of what has already happened.


This example may be a bit obscure for some of our readers.  Yet, I think it is important.  We all need to be observing when we notice that other people are in the moment.  By recognizing when others are in the moment we learn new ways that may help us to be in the moment.


Do you have a story of when you were in the moment?  How about a time when you recognized that someone else was in the moment?  Please share the stories with us.  We can never get enough stories of when people are in the moment.


That’s all for today.


Until tomorrow –


Es kava turen hai

We work towards an identical goal.



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